How to remove unwanted hairs man woman

This is the story of how one woman – freelance writer Anne Shields from New York – made her way through several hair removal products until she finally found the right one for her. Read her adventure, find out which product finally worked for her and, as she says, “learn through my experience”.

Let her us see in her own words how she tackled the problem.

Hello. My name is Anne. I’m a single woman in my thirties (or more precisely, 29 again and again and again and…and yes I m proud to be bi)

Over the last 12 months I’ve tried more hair removal products than I care to remember. Not purposely, mind you – I didn’t set out to evaluate a series of products or write a comparison narrative – I just wanted to find the right product for me. And please don’t think I’m covered in hair. I have simple needs – legs, underarms, touch-ups in certain other areas… As it turns out, my simple goal turned out to be not so simple – and lest my trials go to waste I thought I’d share them with you, gentle reader.

I can only hope that you will learn through my experience.

What I did to remove unwanted hairs


Probably like many of you, I started off in my hair-removal life by shaving. I shaved all parts that I wanted free of hair. This worked well for years – or so I thought. Somewhere in my post-29 age, I started growing weary of the constant shaving. I needed to shave every day if I wanted to keep it smooth; every other day and I could feel the stubble.

removal of unwanted hairs shaving

My tolerance for the inevitable nicks and cuts had been reached. Sure it was quick, but I finally started wondering if there might be something better.


First, a quick note about waxing. When I was in college, my girlfriends introduced me to this method. Or should I say, this torment? You have to understand, I do not have an exceedingly high threshold of pain, especially when it comes to my own body. Others I can inflict pain on; such as old boyfriends who decide to dally with the short blonde from the corner café, or who have an addiction to watching adult videos over the internet. But when it comes to me, my body is a temple and should be treated as such. Waxing, though effective in removing hair, rips it out like a band-aid on steroids. Plus, it’s messy and smells bad. I soon decided that was not an activity I would subject myself to on a regular basis.

Hair Removal Cream

After I decided that there must be a better option than shaving, the first thing I did was trot right out to my local store to see what products were available. What did I discover, but a cream that touted to remove hair simply by wiping it on, and wiping it off. “Ah-ha”, I thought. Now this is what I was looking for!

I bought the cream and brought it home (I won’t tell you which one, but it’s widely available, begins with an N, and rhymes with “hair”). Following the directions, I wiped it on, let it stand for a few minutes, and wiped it off. Lo and behold, with a little prodding, the hair came off my legs.
The story would end here, except for two things – the smell and the dryness. First, this product smelled bad. I thought I could get past that; after all, it removed the hair, didn’t it? But try as I might, the smell was just too great of a cost for the benefit I received. Plus, it left my legs feeling dry and chaffed. I decided there must be a better solution.

removal of unwanted hairs hair removal lotion cream


You might recognize this better if I called it “electronic hair pullers”. When I was at the store earlier, I had noticed some of these. When I went back to the store, I decided to try one. They all promised that I could go weeks between uses. I have to admit, the devices themselves looked a little intimidating. Staring at the trimmers made the hair on my legs stand on end. But I was determined to press on, so I purchased one and took it home.

Before I go on, you need to understand that I do consider myself an intelligent person. I have a successful career, get along well with my parents, and can point to several relationships in which my partner was totally at fault for screwing things up. Nevertheless, the only research I did so far in my quest for the perfect hair remover was looking at products on the store shelves.
I didn’t use my epilator when I first brought it home. Instead, I took it out of the package and set it on my bathroom counter. I thought, “I’ll let it get the feel of the place”, like a newborn puppy exploring its new home. “Then perhaps it won’t hurt as much as it looks like it will”.

My kindness was not repaid. By the time I used my new epilator, I had some three-to-four days growth on my legs. The stubble was palpable. And what I learned about my epilator was that it hurt. I’m proud to say that I used it on both legs. But in the interest of being honest, by the time I was done I was in tears. I couldn’t bring myself to repeat the exercise. That epilator sat in a box in my closet until I donated it to charity at the end of the year as a tax write-off.

I now know there are far better epilators available than the one I purchased on that day. However, much as I like the thought of a quick electronic device to remove that hair, I have not been able to bring myself to try another one. Maybe someday, but not today.


Electrolysis… and a friend discouraged, but not undaunted, I decided to do some research before my next foray into the world of hair removal. I had heard about electrolysis before, but something about it started to intrigue me more and more. Perhaps it was the claim of “permanent hair removal”; perhaps it was its documented history of success. I decided to give it a try.

After researching online, I determined that home electrolysis products – including RF, ultrasound, etc – are dubious at best. They may be effective, but you need to be careful and know what you’re doing. Better leave it to the professionals, I thought.

While I was doing my research, I shared the story of my quest with a friend. She admitted that she had been looking into laser hair removal. We both agreed to make our appointments with the professionals me, electrolysis, and she, laser), and compare the results.

I made the appointment for my electrolysis treatment session. Now, you have to understand that electrolysis it not cheap. Fortunately I was in a position where I could try it – but I’m well aware that not everyone could afford the thousands of dollars that professional electrolysis can cost you each year.

Slow electrolysis

So what did I learn about electrolysis? First, it’s sloooooow. I mean painstakingly slow. A trained specialist inserts a needle into each individual hair follicle while applying an electrical current to it. The current travels through the needle and kills the hair at its root. Then they pull the hair out with tweezers.

Painful electrolysis

Second, it’s painful. More than I thought it would be. The bad news about my epilator was that it hurt; the good news was it was over rather quickly. Electrolysis hurts too; the bad news is that it goes on for hours. And that’s just for one session. You need to schedule multiple appointments and come back for more sessions for different parts of your body. The solution is permanent – but only after repeated visits. So if you’re serious about electrolysis , you need to be prepared to spend the next 2-3 years minimum undergoing these long, painful, and expensive treatments. I had higher expectations than that. I haven’t been back for my second appointment.


At around the same time, my friend scheduled her appointment for laser treatment. There are a variety of laser hair removal treatments – IPL, Ruby Red, IML, to name a few. They all share a similar approach; a laser beam is applied to the skin which kills the hair.

She had previously undergone electrolysis treatments, so she had a good deal of apprehension related to how much pain would be involved. She was much relieved to find the process relatively pain-free. There is a mild “thumping” on your flesh while the laser is being applied – kind of like a rubber band being snapped on your skin. And, the process was far quicker than electrolysis – it only took a few minutes versus hours with the electrified needle.

Drawbacks? Cost for one. The laser treatments she signed up for cost hundreds of dollars each – well over a thousand in all. Through my research I also discovered that the government recently issued a ruling that laser hair removal is not permanent – so the treatments (and cost) need to be continued indefinitely. For my friend, the benefit of quick and relatively pain-free removal was worth the cost. In fact, she continues her laser treatments to this day, and is quite satisfied. For myself, I decided to continue looking for a solution that would give me similar results but cost far less.


There are few disadvantages of trimming hairs.

  1. You will not experience any new growth.
  2. You will make your hair prematurely dry by snipping off ends that now expose younger hair further up the shaft to becoming the new soon to become dry ends.
  3. You are likely to be trimming more hair than you grow.
  4. Your hair is unlikely to need trimming.
  5. If hair is trimmed in a salon you will be spending money unnecessarily. If done at home you will be spending time unnecessarily.
  6. Trimming removes uniformity and pinches when it gets bend through fabric as it sharpens

I cam to know that trimming is easy. This is how you trim hairs – Using clean, sharp, salon quality scissors or sheers, even out the ends of your hair by making a cut that is parallel to your pinched fingers. The amount of hair trimmed is up to you. Standing in front of a mirror helps when you are trimming your own hair.

removal of unwanted hairs trimming

Back to the drawing board

By this time I was feeling very educated about hair removal. But where did that leave me? It seemed I had run out of options. Like any good researcher, I went back over my notes to see if I had missed something. In fact, I closely examined my first option – the hair removal cream. I reflected upon what I liked about it – simple to apply, simple to wipe off. And what I didn’t like about it – primarily the odor. So then I decided to do some research – on the internet, not just on the store shelves. Something I had failed to do the first time around.

Problem Solved!

After doing some research I purchased a different hair removal cream. And what did I discover? My new cream worked better than my original purchase, plus it supplied my skin with moisturizing nutrients and vitamins. Even better, there was no ugly odor that I had to endure! Soon after I first applied this cream, I discovered that I could go for weeks between applications with no worries of stubble. And the hair that does grow back is finer (not as coarse or rough). I finally found a product that meets my (perfectly reasonable but obviously demanding) needs!

My Advice

So what product did I settle on? This isn’t a sales article, so as much as I’d like to, I won’t reveal which product I settled on. It’s been months now, and I’m very happy with it. I find it difficult to recommend a product to you, because your pain tolerance or needs may be different than mine. My advice to you is… do just a little research online before your next hair removal product purchase. Google search or go through consumer forums and review sites. Their analysis is well thought-out and you can access all their information for free. Take a look at their reviews and see if you can find a product that fits your needs.

I hope you can benefit from my experience without having to spend the next few months (not to mention $1,000+) trying all sorts of products to remove your unwanted hair. Good luck and stay beautiful!

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  1. Unwanted facial hair is said to be a worry for most of the women. It is a fact that, there are many hair removal creams available in market, which is almost affordable. But the fact is that these facial creams are provided with chemicals, which can show side affects like itching, redness and burning sensation after use. So, here are some natural home remedies to remove unwanted hair. Check some home remedy tips from my side : — ********* Take a spoon full of sugar; lemon and water make a through paste. Apply the paste in the direction of the hair growth and leave it to 10-15 minutes. Then rinse it off and see the astonishing results. But applying this remedy twice a week is beneficial. ********* Take a tablespoon of fresh lime juice and mix 4 teaspoons of honey. Use a face brush and apply this paste on the face, in the direction of hair growth. Leave this paste on the face for 15 minutes and then rinse it off. Make this application a twice a week habit. ********* Take few spoons of pure and raw milk and mix turmeric powder to the milk. Apply it on the face and leave rub the application on the face in a circular motion and then star scrubbing off, after 10 minutes. After that, wash it of with cold water and see the results. ********* Mix one egg white with 1 teaspoon of sugar and half teaspoon of corn flour. Mix it thoroughly, until it becomes a thick sticky paste. Apply this paste on the face and allow it to dry. Peel it off gently. Follow this process 4 times a week. ********* Add little quality of turmeric and besan and mix some water to make it into paste. Apply it on the face and allow it to dry. Gently rub the face with cold water after the drying and peeling is done. Wash it with warm or cold water afterwards. ********* Make a paste of curd, turmeric powder and gram flour and apply it on the face. Rub it gently and then wash it off. ********* Note- for body hair- hair grown on the body like in legs, bikini area here is a home remedy. Soak two cups of Epsom salt in a tub and then apply it on circular motion and then rinse it off. But in case of any irritation or redness, please stop this remedy and use gentle sugar, in place of Epsom salt.

  2. Rohita Mukherjee says:

    My husband still likes me to be hairy. Why change yourself to please other person. What`s wrong with a close trim with scissors. Of course you don`t want hair hanging out of your bikini area, so you get a bikini waxing, the pubic hair can be neatly trimmed with scissors. Not every man prefers the puberty look, some men actually like some pubic hair on a female. No stubble from shaving, no painful waxing and no costly laser treatments.

  3. Wax. It helps to diminish growth over time. Always wax short hairs, so you may have to shave once, then maintain the short growth by waxing. Before periods keep your vagina clean. simple.

  4. Khusabu Murtaza says:

    I felt embarrass and insecurities when everyone looked at me, my hair had been lost almost all and it looked so weird! almost no hairs on head.

  5. Alexandria says:

    Nice of you to share personal experience, very seldom people do. You are sweet girl. Unwanted hair appears all over the face, body, such as the legs, chest, back, armpits and feet, according to the American Academy of Dermatology. Traditionally, shaving, plucking, waxing and over-the-counter hair removal treatments are used to get rid of unwanted hair. You might prefer to take a different approach to hair removal, though, and use a home remedy. —– Step 1 —— Use besan and turmeric, which can be found at your local natural food store, to remove unwanted hair. Besan, which is also referred to as gram flour, is made using chickpeas and is a common ingredient in Indian foods. Besan and turmeric work together to inhibit hair growth. Apply equal parts of each ingredient and mix well. Gently rub the mixture into the problem area. Allow the substance to completely dry and use a warm cloth to wipe away the hair and ingredients. ———- Step 2 ———- Use a sugar mixture to remove hair. Mix sugar, honey and lemon in a bowl and microwave the mixture for up to three minutes, recommends The mixture should have a smooth consistently. Apply the mixture to the unwanted hair and cover it with a cloth strip designed for waxing. Quickly remove the strip against the direction of hair growth. —– Step 3 —– Apply an egg mask to facial hair. Mix one egg white with 1 tbsp. sugar and 1/2 tbsp. corn flour into a paste, apply to the unwanted hair and allow it to completely dry. Once the mixture has dried, peel off the mask, and unwanted hair will come off, too. ====== Tips and Warnings ====== A single treatment option doesn’t work best for everyone. You might need to try a couple different options before finding the best natural treatment for your problem areas. Try home remedies on a small patch of skin before using on a larger area. This will give you an opportunity to detect skin irritation before treating a larger area.