Orgasm is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region characterized by sexual pleasure.
When you have an orgasm, your heart beats faster and your breathing gets quicker and heavier.
In women, an intense pleasurable release of sexual tension is accompanied by contractions of the genital muscles.A woman may be able to experience more than one orgasm shortly after the first if she continues to be stimulated.A minority of women may ejaculate, and a clear fluid spurts from glands close to the urethra during intense sexual excitement or during orgasm. The glands are called the Skene’s glands.In men, muscle contractions cause semen containing sperm to spurt out of the penis (ejaculation). After this, a man can’t have another orgasm for a while.This recovery phase, in which the penis and testicles shrink back to their normal size, can last from a few minutes to a few hours.
Some women find it difficult to reach an orgasm through intercourse alone, but can easily climax through masturbation. Few others find it difficult to experience orgasm even once a year. Difficulty having an orgasm can be caused by a number of things, such as worries or lack of knowledge about sex, being unable to relax, not being stimulated enough, relationship problems, feeling depressed or a previous traumatic sexual experience.
We are discussing here to bust some myths about orgasm so that women enjoy orgasm and men support them in achieving it to full pleasure.
As you know, there are hundreds of myths about the female orgasm. But, we will keep it short and readable so as to cover most common myths which comprises of 90% of the misconceptions about orgasm.
The question is: are these myths of orgasm true? Of course not!
- 1 Myths of Female Orgasm
- 1.1 Men Deal with Super Women
- 1.2 Only Penetration Can Give Immense Orgasm
- 1.3 Men Do not Fake Orgasm!
- 1.4 Anorgasmia means She Does not Love!
- 1.5 Man is Failure or Impotent not to Make Her Reach Orgasm
- 1.6 Woman only enjoys Orgasm
Myths of Female Orgasm
Here are some of the most common myths:
Men Deal with Super Women
Myth 1: Women take longer to reach orgasm than men
Fact: This is a common myth which has not been supported by research. The reason people believe this is that they don’t understand the female arousal pattern. Women’s arousal patterns are much different than men’s and, as a result, they are physically prepared for intercourse later than men are.
The time from optimal arousal to orgasm is pretty much identical for both men and women. The difference is in how long it takes to reach that level of arousal. Because men often don’t know how to help their partners get to that point, it does seem to take longer. Once that’s changed, however, men find their partners reach orgasm more quickly and even have multiple orgasms in quick succession.
Only Penetration Can Give Immense Orgasm
Myth 2: Women should only reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse
Fact: Only about a third of women experience orgasm regularly during intercourse. A third can reach orgasm with intercourse but need extra stimulation. A third never achieve orgasm during intercourse but can by manual and oral stimulation. Having orgasms by means other than intercourse is a normal variation of female sexuality. In the past, people thought that “mature” women had their orgasms with intercourse; you will sometimes run across an older book that has this view. However, laboratory studies in the 1960’s showed that an orgasm is an orgasm no matter which way you obtain it. How a woman reaches an orgasm has nothing to do with her mental health or emotional maturity.
This is definitely not true but it’s a myth that has caused us to take women’s sexual needs for granted for a long time. This myth actually started with Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis, who had recognized that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Freud dismissed this type of stimulation as juvenile and believed it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing only on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasms.
The problem is that the vagina was not designed for orgasms. It does not have the concentrated nerve endings that one finds in the clitoris or in the head of a penis, for example.
As a result of Freud’s determination, women who could not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse were considered to have some type of psychological impairment. All sorts of methods were devised in an attempt to “liberate” women from their reliance on the clitoris for sexual pleasure.
Only in recent decades has society begun talking openly about the women’s right to enjoy sex and to reach orgasm in whatever manner worked for her.
Men Do not Fake Orgasm!
Myth 3: Only women fake orgasms
Fact: Even though this article is about female orgasms, I think it’s important for both men and women to realize that orgasms are not going to happen during every sexual encounter. About one-fifth of men admitted that they have faked an orgasm with a partner. Their reasons for faking are the same as women’s: they don’t want their partners to be disappointed.
Orgasms don’t always come easily in a partnership. Sure, when we masturbate we can probably get off every time because we know our bodies and we know what works. Our sexual partners have to learn these things over time and, most importantly, with our help.
Again, faking orgasms is not the answer for either sex. It just complicates the issue and prevents both partners from having a truly fulfilling sexual encounter.
Anorgasmia means She Does not Love!
Myth 4: Inability to reach orgasm
or Anorgasmia means a woman is “frigid” or that there is something seriously wrong with her or her relationship.
Fact: Women who were able to have orgasms in the past but can no longer do so may be suffering from a medical problem or a side effect from medication. Women who have never had an orgasm may never have learned what type and duration of stimulation they need.
Man is Failure or Impotent not to Make Her Reach Orgasm
Myth 5: If a woman cannot reach orgasm, then her partner is not a skillful lover
Fact: While there are many ways a loving partner can help a woman reach orgasm, in the end, a woman is responsible for her own sexual pleasure. That does not mean her partner should not be involved. Communication between partners is very important. It is up to the woman to inform her partner her likes and dislikes in their love making.
Woman only enjoys Orgasm
Myth 6: A woman has to have an orgasm in order to enjoy sex
This myth seems to be more common among men than among women.
Fact: Many women enjoy the closeness and physical intimacy of sex and are satisfied even if they do not, or do not always, have an orgasm.
So, bottom line: don’t believe all myths you hear or read! You can please women with the best orgasms if you understand how the female body works!
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