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Anal sex or anal intercourse is generally the insertion and thrusting of the erect penis into a person’s anus, or anus and rectum, for sexual pleasure. Other forms of anal sex include fingering, the use of sex toys for anal penetration, oral sex performed on the anus, and pegging.

Anal sex means penis-in-anus (butt) intercourse. Some people enjoy anal sex, and some people don’t like it at all. Either way is perfectly fine. If you don’t like it or don’t want to try it, it’s not ok for someone to pressure you into it. Sex should feel good and be comfortable for both of you.

Anal sex can hurt if you’re not relaxed and don’t use lubricant. The anus doesn’t make it’s own lubrication like the vagina does, so using lube helps the penis (or a sex toy) go in the anus easier and keeps the condom from breaking.

Don’t use anything with oil in it, like Vaseline, lotion, or baby oil. Oil-based lubes can weaken a condom and make it more likely to break. You can get safe lubricants (water or silicone based) in the condom aisle at drug and grocery stores.

Listen to your body. If anal sex (or any sex) hurts, stop doing it. Sex that’s painful or uncomfortable shouldn’t continue and your partner should respect that.

You can’t get pregnant from anal sex. But there’s a bigger chance of getting STDs, including HIV, from unprotected anal sex (without a condom). So it’s important to always use condoms AND lube to lower your chances of getting an STD.

There are certain myths which stop couples to practice safe anal sex. The final authority to deny or receive anal sex completely depends on the choice of a woman, she cannot be forced to have anal sex if she does not like it even after busting the anal sex myths given here. Similarly, same rule goes for gay partner of a man.

Misconceptions and Myths of Anal Sex

Myth #1: Anal sex is unnatural and immoral

TRUTH: Students of sociology and social change are aware of the axiom that today’s deviance may well be tomorrow’s norm. The present widespread approval of the practice of masturbation and oral sex is an example of a deviance of yesteryear that has changed into a norm. The definitions of what is or what isn’t deviant behavior are established by various legitimate institutions, the most important being government and religion.

The anal sex taboo is well established in American culture. Prevalent in religious, legal, medical, and scientific institutions, the taboo is clearly manifested in information about health and sexuality. The myths that follow will be familiar to most people, and they both inform and reinforce the anal sex taboo. Taboos usually defy logic, science, and experience; they generally have more to do with misinformation, fear, and a desire to maintain the status quo. In the case of anal sex, the taboo mirrors some fundamental elements of our society. For example, anal sex being considered dirty is linked with the cultural obsession with hygiene and cleanliness; the perceived connection between anal sex and gay men reflects deep-seated societal homophobia. Both so-called facts prevent people from experiencing anal pleasure.

In the Judeo-Christian tradition, the taboo against anal intercourse is seen as coming from God. In the Old Testament story, God completely destroys the city of Sodom, presumably as punishment for rampant sodomy among its people. Many scholars now believe that the punishment was for Sodom’s violation of hospitality rules, and had little, if anything, to do with sex. The sodomy interpretation, however, is still one generally accepted. Among believers, condemnation of anal sex is not based on any discernible principle except the desire to avoid the wrath of God.

Today, the people and institutions invested in maintaining that anal sex is unnatural and immoral are often the same folks who support antigay legislation, banning sex education in schools, and sodomy laws, which make it illegal to have any kind of sex other than procreative, heterosexual vaginal intercourse.

Myth #2: Only sluts, perverts, and weirdos have anal sex

TRUTH: Anal sex is practiced and enjoyed by women, men, and transgender people of all kinds, from the perky girl next door to the daring dominatrix in the dungeon. In fact, in today’s sex surveys and self-help books, the sections on “kinky” or “deviant” sex practices—including bondage, cross-dressing, S/M, golden showers, and group sex—do not usually include anal sex. Anal sex is more often categorized with vaginal intercourse and oral sex.’ The notion that anal sex is kinky, abnormal, or perverted is based on the assumption that only a few specific kinds of sex—usually heterosexual, procreative, penis-vagina intercourse—are natural, normal, and conventional

Myth #3: The anus and rectum were never meant to be eroticized

TRUTH: The anus and rectum are full of sensitive, responsive nerve endings, and the stimulation of these nerve endings and penetration of the rectum can be intensely pleasurable—and orgasmic—for both men and women. Furthermore, women’s G-spots and perineums can be stimulated during anal sex, and men may experience stimulation of the bulb of the penis and the prostate gland through anal penetration. The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex reminds us that “the anus is rich in nerve endings and participates with our genitals in the engorgement, muscular tension and contractions of sexual arousal and orgasm.”

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Myth #4: Anal sex is dirty and messy

TRUTH: As long as you practice standard hygiene, anal sex is no more messy than any other kind of sex. Feces are stored in the bowel and pass through the rectum and anal canal during a bowel movement. Normally, there is only a very small amount of fecal matter in the anal canal and rectum. Some people like to take a shower or bath before sex to clean the anal area, but no other extraordinary measures are necessary for anal sex. Some people have an enema before anal sex, but again, that is not necessary.

Myth #5: Only homosexual men have anal sex

TRUTH: People of all sexual orientations and partners of all genders have anal sex. While it’s true that many gay men do have anal sex, the actual statistics reveal a much smaller percentage than is widely believed: 50-60 percent have tried it and fewer than 30 percent have it regularly. Fellatio is a much more common practice among gay men.

The idea that all gay men and only gay men have anal sex—one that the Religious Right would like us to believe—is simply         not  supported. Furthermore, there is no evidence that any single group defined by sexual orientation has a great deal more anal sex than any other group. In fact, depending on which survey you cite, from 20 to 45 percent of women have anal sex.

Myth #6: Straight men who like anal sex are really gay

TRUTH: Because anal sex is falsely but intrinsically linked with gay men and gay sex, there is a myth that if men want anal sex, then they must be gay. In most cases, men who identify as heterosexual and desire anal sex with women (whether they are on the giving or receiving end)   are     not     repressing homosexual desires or tendencies. Their desire for a particular sexual activity does not rely on or “cancel out” their sexual        preference   in       a partner. According to research, more gay men regularly practice fellatio than anal sex, and as my friend Audrey says, “How come no one ever asks: If a straight guy likes blow jobs, does that mean he’s really gay?”

It’s ironic: even though butt fucking is popularly associated with gay men in today’s sexual culture, it is in fact heterosexuals who have gone wild about their asses. Ask anyone who works in a sex toy shop what single item has surged forward in sales in the past fifteen years: buttplugs.

And dildo harnesses for women who are clearly involved with men.

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Myth #7: Anal sex is always painful for the person on the receiving end

TRUTH: With desire, relaxation, communication, trust, and lots of lubrication, anal sex can be not only pain-free but arousing and orgasmic. Anal sex does not have to be painful at all, not even a little. If it is, your body is telling you that you should stop. If you ignore your body’s warnings and continue, then you can hurt yourself. The experience may make you and your anus more tense the next time you try anal penetration. Your body remembers everything, so don’t try to fool it.

Myth #8: Women don’t enjoy receiving anal sex; they do it just to please their partners

TRUTH: This is a particularly insidious myth about heterosexual women. Often, when we do hear about women having anal sex, the story goes something like this: The long-term boyfriend begged and begged, and finally his girlfriend gave in to his demands. Her boyfriend was pleased, but she didn’t enjoy herself one bit. We never hear stories about women who crave and enjoy anal play, women who initiate anal sex, or women who are more than happy to knock on their boyfriends’ back door. Sex advice columnist Susan Crain Bakos says, “Buttfucking is seen as the ultimate male sexual fantasy. We, as a culture, don’t understand how much women can like taking it up the ass.” ‘ And, I would add, giving it up the ass as well.

Myth #9: Anal sex is the easiest way to get AIDS

TRUTH: Because anal and rectal tissue is delicate and easily torn, viruses can be easily transmitted through the tissue into the bloodstream; so, unprotected anal intercourse with an infected person is a high-risk activity for both partners—statistically higher than vaginal intercourse with an infected person—for all STDs, including HIV.

Unprotected oral-anal contact and digital penetration also puts both partners at risk—the receiver because of fragile rectal tissue and the giver because of cuts or sores that may be on the hands or mouth. However, anal sex does not automatically lead to AIDS. Anal sex practiced with common sense, condoms, latex gloves, dental dams, and lube (or an HIV-negative monogamous partner) can be as safe as other sexual practices.

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Myth #10: Anal sex is naughty

TRUTH: Well, this is actually a myth and a truth. Of course, anal sex is not really bad for you and doesn’t make you a bad person. However, for those of you who are turned on by the idea that anal sex is taboo, deviant, and naughty, don’t let me ruin your party. Lots of people actually incorporate the myths I’ve discussed—especially the “naughtiness factor”—into their erotic anal play.

I love that anal sex is taboo and that not everyone admits to doing it.

The taboo of anal sex gives me a rush, as well as knowing how intense it is for my partner. I love to watch her ass pounding against me.

I love the idea that I am fucking my partner in the ass. It feels taboo and sexy all at the same time.

Exercise: Personal Mythology

What did you learn about anal sex during your childhood, your teens, your adulthood? Write down everything you know about anal sex, even things you know are untrue; just let whatever comes to mind flow onto paper.

When you’re finished, compare your list to the myths and truths reviewed here. Figure out what among your list is fact and what is fiction. Keep the list handy as you read the rest of the book. You may also want to repeat this exercise with a partner as part of a discussion about anal sex. By acknowledging and discussing the myths that affect our desires and fears in a safe environment, we can begin to see the truths behind the myths. One very important truth to remember is that anal sex can be safe, fun, and pleasurable.

After this exercise, you have to do few quick readings, we have listed some anal sex guides for you – after reading these guides you will surely become anal sex expert – who knows how to perform anal sex safely, causing no harm to the receiver and yourself.

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