Oral sex is an important part of sexual intimacy. There are, however, some myths that need to be dispelled.

Are you familiar with the terms ‘giving head’, ‘brain salad surgery’, ‘domes’ or ‘getting domes’?  How about ‘blow job’, ‘go down on’, ‘eat out’ or ‘lunch at Y’? These are the common slangs used for oral sex. These slangs are very popular with teenagers, just the way oral sex is. One of the reasons for its popularity is the safety associated with it, at least in their minds.
The truth about oral sex and safety

Oral sex, considered safe, especially among teenagers, is actually not completely safe. It may be completely safe where pregnancy is considered but it does not shield you from sexually transmitted Infections (STIs). STIs like HIV, herpes, and gonorrhoea are transmitted through exposure to blood, semen, vaginal secretions etc. So stimulation of genitals, by using the mouth renders the instant exposure of mouth to the semen or vaginal secretions. Any cut or abrasion in the mouth or tongue further facilitates it.

The risk is higher in homosexuals, for it is the preferred mode of stimulation among them. This puts them at a high risk for HIV infections and other viral and bacterial STIs. Although the frequency of unsafe sexual practices and reported rates of bacterial STIs has declined substantially in the last decade, increased rates of syphilis, gonorrhoea, and chlamydia infections have gone up. The underlying behavioural changes likely are related to effects of improved HIV/AIDS therapy on quality of life and survival, “safer sex burnout”, and in some cities, adverse trends in substance abuse.
Myths about oral sex

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Freshers in Oral Sex Should Practice With Clean Sex Toys

There is no documented knowledge on oral sex which is easily accessible, hence many myths are prevalent. Some of the other myths associated with oral sex are –

–       You will not get any sexually transmitted diseases if you brush your teeth after oral sex

–       Ejaculatory fluid from penis can clear your acne when rubbed on skin

–       When swallowed, ejaculate can help you grow your breasts to a larger size or will be helpful in alleviating pain during your period

–       Or rubbing your teeth with ejaculatory fluid will help whiten them

Trust me these all are NOT TRUE. They all are myths, not facts.

There are safer ways to perform oral sex. Using condoms when performing fellatio (when act is done on male partner) and using dental dams when performing cunnilingus (when done on female partner). Practise safe sex and then enjoy. When sex comes in your mind, think word ‘SAFE’ with it.

Just like few Middle East countries, pervasive myths about oral sex have long existed amongst asians. Yet, oral sex has indisputably emerged as the hottest and newest trend among people Down Under.

Dr. Shivani Sachdev Gour, fertility expert, Phoenix Hospital, states, “Oral sex is wrongly related to the culture of the country and is not merely considered as an act of pleasure. In India, there’s a lack of education, which has made couples ignorant about oral sex. Young girls often fear pregnancy or might relate their irregular periods to indulging in oral sex, which is untrue as the two have no correlation.”

Dr. Megha Hazuria Gore, clinical physiologist agrees, “For Indians, anything which is done out of the ordinary and is beyond the conservative meaning of sex comes with numerous myths. Likewise, oral sex is not seen as a normal part of sexual interaction and it’s considered to be a pornographic act.”

A large chunk of the aam janta also seem to argue that oral sex can never make them climax, which is why they prefer steamy sex romps. However, its’ advisable not to nurture any preconceived notions about this act without actually trying it out or without having proper knowledge about it.

Housewife Prerna Malhotra (name changed), narrates, “I love giving and getting oral pleasure, but at times when my husband comes back from work and refuses to take a shower, I don’t feel comfortable. His stinking body and sticky mouth doesn’t let me enjoy the act, so I avoid it.”

Unlike Prerna, a working professional Ritu Joshi shares, “My husband has never worn a condom while having sex and considering his potent libido, I fear, it might be medically unsafe for both of us. So, I feel oral sex can at least help us keep infections at bay”

Stating these as wrong notions, Dr. Rajan Bhonsle, an expert on sexual relations, elucidates, “Oral sex is not 100 per cent safe and can lead to infections. The worst part is that those indulging in oral sex might not even know whether their partner is carrying any sexually transmitted disease or not. As a result, they land up being the victims of medical repercussions.”

So, before you partake in oral sex, read the most common myths and facts about the act…

Here are the most common myths about oral sex and actual facts behind it…

Myth 1: You can lose your virginity having had oral sex

Mention sex and people think that their virginity is at stake. Oral sex, where there is no contact between sexual organs, has been regarded as a taboo that can leave you a non-virgin, which is untrue.

Expert talk : “You can lose your virginity only when there is a physical penetration. People should learn about the scientific logic and remove their emotional barriers from their mind. Though oral sex can take away their emotional virginity,” explains Dr. Megha.

Myth 2: Oral sex can get you pregnant

Inquisitive to have sexual pleasure in different forms (read oral sex); most women carry fears of unwanted pregnancy. Oral sex (by means of fellatio) alone cannot result in pregnancy. Though it carries a minor risk of pregnancy, if the semen comes into contact with the vaginal area indirectly, so it’s better to exercise caution.

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Never Involve in Group Oral Sex, Its Unhygienic

Expert talk : “For pregnancy, the male sperms have to unite with the female eggs to start fertilisation and child formation. But during oral sex, there’s no such process happening. The sperm is either in the mouth or is ejaculated on the body, but nowhere does it meet the egg, so there’s no chance of pregnancy,” asserts Dr. Shivani.

Myth 3: Oral sex is always unhygienic

Though one’s personal hygiene completely depends on their innate routines and habits, Indians still get a repulsive feeling towards the oral form of sex. It comprises unhygienic threats only when practiced with multiple partners, but if it’s between two partners regularly, hygiene should not be a problem.

Expert talk : “If either of the partners does not believe in cleanliness and freshness, there is an understandable reluctance towards oral sex. It’s a fact that sex organs secrete and also that a man urinates and ejaculates from the same point, but maintaining good hygiene can ensure an enjoyable act,” opines Dr. Bhonsle.

He further suggests that couples must wash or gently clean their organs before and after the act gets over. Also, if you’ve just come back home, after long hours of work, take a shower to get away with that sticky smell that tends to irk your partner. Make sure you’ve changed your clothes and there’s a feeling of freshness before you invite your partner for the oral act.

Myth 4: You can never have an orgasm from oral sex

Oral sex is always believed to be essentially a foreplay act, which in no way can result in an orgasm. But the fact is that oral sex arouses both partners to a climax and there is full possibility of achieving an orgasm which is even better than natural sex.

Expert talk : “During the oral sex act, the woman’s clitoris gets stimulated and evidently, they find the orgasm more pleasurable and satisfactory. It applies to men also, as it’s like a masturbation act,” clarifies Dr. Shivani.

Myth 5: Oral sex is absolutely safe, can’t cause any STIs

One of the most prevalent myths maintains that oral sex is a far better way of avoiding risks of HIV and other Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI). While the fact is that body fluids get exchanged during oral sex, so chances of transmitting infections are high.

Expert talk : “You can get severe forms of sexually transmitted diseases and infections through oral sex and the worst part is they are visible on your face. The infection commonly spread is ‘cold sore’, which is spread from the genitals of your partner and it makes a white ugly mark at the bottom of the lip area, though this can be treated with antibiotics,’ explicates Dr. Shivani.

Myth 6: Oral sex is a substitute for vaginal sex

The myth is common amongst teenagers. They are convinced that it’s a substitute for the natural form of sex that helps them remain sexually active.

Expert talk : “Oral sex gives pleasure, but you can’t use it as a substitute for vaginal sex. Agreed that hormones are high and biology is playing its role in the process, but there has to be a time and place for it. Teenagers tend to involve in oral sex without actually knowing it pros and cons,” says Dr. Megha.

Mutual Response Is Good For Oral Sex
Mutual Response Is Good For Oral Sex

Myth 7: Condoms can’t be used while giving or receiving oral sex

Ever wondered why markets are flooded with flavoured condoms – for a simple reason, they are especially made for oral sex and most couples are still unaware about it. The most common query relating to this myth is that how safe is swallowing condom lubrication during oral sex.

Expert talk : “Understand the need for such precautions. A woman can’t stand the idea of spilling male semen all over her mouth and it is not a good feeling too, so condoms come in handy. As far as lubrication is concerned, flavoured condoms are safe since they are specifically meant for the oral act,” says Dr. Bhonsle.

Excerpts of the article from Sept 23, TOI last year.

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Comments

  1. Phillip123 says:

    Hi everyone. I love giving and receiving oral sex. However, my girlfriend doesn’t feel the same way. She loves to receive, however, she doesn’t seem to “reciprocate.” How do I get her to “reciprocate” without seeming like too much of a jerk, or too pushy? Thanks!

  2. Last week, I had protected anal sex with another man. I also had unprotected oral sex. I am really worried about Hiv. Should i be concerned?

  3. cuz i hear that most girls like circumcised
    bust some like normal why is that?

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