How to Make Anal Sex Enjoyable for Women

Anal sex or anal intercourse is generally the insertion and thrusting of the erect penis into a person’s anus, or anus and rectum, for sexual pleasure. Other forms of anal sex include fingering, the use of sex toys for anal penetration, oral sex performed on the anus (anilingus), and pegging.

Though the term anal sex most commonly means penile-anal penetration, sources sometimes use the term anal intercourse to refer exclusively to penile-anal penetration, and anal sex to refer to any form of anal sexual activity, especially between pairings as opposed to anal masturbation.

While anal sex is commonly associated with male homosexuality, research shows that not all gay males engage in anal sex and that it is not uncommon in heterosexual relationships. Types of anal sex can also be a part of lesbian sexual practices. People may experience pleasure from anal sex by stimulation of the anal nerve endings, and orgasm may be achieved through anal penetration – by indirect stimulation of the prostate in men, indirect stimulation of the clitoris or an area of the vagina associated with the G-spot in women, and other sensory nerves (especially the pudendal nerve). However, people may also find anal sex painful, sometimes extremely so, which may be primarily due to psychological factors in some cases.

As with most forms of sexual activity, anal sex participants risk contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs/STDs). Anal sex is considered a high-risk sexual practice because of the vulnerability of the anus and rectum. The anal and rectal tissues are delicate and do not provide natural lubrication, so they can easily tear and permit disease transmission, especially if lubricant is not used. Anal sex without protection of a condom is considered the riskiest form of sexual activity, and therefore health authorities such as the World Health Organization (WHO) recommend safe sex practices for anal sex.

Anal sex is even today considered unnatural form of sex as lubrication is not generated naturally and can never be consummated for reproduction. Anal fissures and colon problems are often associated with anal sex. Some patients confessed that momentary pleasures resulted in long term anal problems for them. Vaginal nerves are naturally made to withstand stretch and elasticity to a level tolerated by women but anal membranes cannot be stretched so it is fatal if done excessively.

Anal sex is something women do to make their men happy, right? They don’t actually enjoy it, right? Wrong! Lots of women really enjoy anal play, however, there’s a lot of guys who don’t know how to make it safe and comfortable for a woman, so she can’t really enjoy it. Here’s how you can make anal sex something she loves.

Tips to Make Anal Sex Tolerable and Fun for Women/Partners

Use Enough Lube

The main reason that women don’t enjoy anal sex is that it can hurt and it can hurt bad if it’s not done correctly! One thing that can contribute to pain during anal sex is not having enough lube. Lube is very important during this activity because the anus does not lubricate itself the way a vagina does. Without external lubrication, the anus can become very dry and the delicate tissues can tear and bleed. Don’t be afraid to dump a whole bottle of lube on her butt if you have to – when it comes to this activity, you really can’t use enough lube.

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The best lube for anal sex is a water based lube – a silicone lube is thick and can last longer (which is important for prolonged moisture) but it is not as easy to rinse off as water based lube. Search for a good, gentle water based lube that is made in a thicker formula. Never use a desensitizing lube for anal sex! While this may make her more “comfortable” in the beginning, she won’t be aware if the pain becomes too much. This can definitely lead to tears in the anus or bowel that require immediate medical attention. Good water based lube (and plenty of it) is all you need!

Use Small Toys First

Most guys get really excited at the prospect of trying anal sex with their partners and are eager to put their penises in right away. However, unless you’re a really small guy, you may be too big for her if she hasn’t tried anything else. Even with lube, if she’s not accommodated to taking something as large as your penis into her anus, you’re going to have to start smaller and work your way up.

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Fingering the anus is a good starting point, since you can use one finger and gradually increase to two or even three fingers once she becomes more comfortable with it. You can also purchase small butt plugs that can be used to get her used to anal stimulation during sex. Even if you’re chomping at the bit to get it on with her backdoor, she’s going to like it a lot better if you don’t bombard her with something huge at first. She’ll also be more receptive to have anal sex more often if it doesn’t hurt!

Give Her Encouragement

Women love to know that they’re giving their men pleasure – and they want to hear about it first hand. While she’s having anal sex with you, don’t be too shy to let her know how much you enjoy it. Let it all out – moan, grunt and gasp so she knows that your pleasure is genuine! You can also give her a few words of encouragement as you’re warming her up with a sex toy or your fingers. Let her know how hot her butt is and how naughty and sexy she is for doing this with you. She’ll love hearing how much you’re enjoying it!

Don’t Act Like Poop Is A Big Deal

A huge reason that women don’t enjoy having anal sex with their partners is that they’re afraid or embarrassed to make a mess. This may keep her from ever having anal sex with you at all – she could be extremely apprehensive about fecal matter coming out during sex and she may think you’ll laugh at her or criticize her for it. Let her know up front that you know it might get dirty – and that it doesn’t bother you in the least. And if it happens – don’t freak out. Have a warm, wet washable cloth nearby for clean up and take care of it as soon as you notice. If you can, don’t even mention it to her.

You can also ease her fears about making a mess during anal sex by encouraging her to have a bowel movement first or to do an enema first. Some women even find the enema process pleasurable, and it keeps things clean during sex later.

Make Sure She’s Aroused First

If she’s not aroused, she’s not going to enjoy anal sex, period. Her anus will be tight and puckered, and it won’t relax enough to allow you to put anything in, including your penis. So before you plan on heading to her backyard, play in the front a little first. Give her oral sex and get her really, really turned on. Lick her clitoris and get her to where she’s begging you to finish her off. Then, proceed to warm her up anally and don’t neglect her clitoris when you get started. With a combination of clitoral, anal and even vaginal or g-spot stimulation, you may end up giving her the best orgasm of her life!

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Take Care Of Her Afterwards

When you’re finished, don’t just roll over and go to sleep, even if you’re tempted to. Instead, make an attempt to have a conversation with her. Help her get cleaned up, or join her in the shower if that’s what she wants to do afterwards. Let her know how much you enjoyed it and how glad you are that she did it. Let her know that you care about her and show her that you don’t think any less of her. Give her a sensual massage or make her a cup of hot tea to help her relax. Show her that she’s important to you and fulfill her emotionally as well. If you make her feel good emotionally after having anal sex, she’ll definitely want to have it again!

Most Preferred Anal Sex Positions by the Couple

Using the right sex positions can also help to make the experience a good one. Anal sex doesn’t have to be performed in one position. It is crucial that you find the position that is most comfortable for you to receive your partner. As the saying goes, “securing a prime real estate is all about location”. The same principle applies to anal sex -It’s all about position. Here are the list of 3 best positions suitable for deriving pleasurable and alluring anal pleasure:

Anal Sex Cowgirl position

This is one of the most highly-enjoyed positions by women because it lets you control the speed and depth of thrusting. In the cowgirl position, your partner lies down while you (female) mount on top. As the partner on top, you can ease into anal penetration by moving up or down as needed. Straddling your partner during anal sex should not be a problem, particularly if you are fairly tall in comparison to your partner. You will place your legs on the mattress on either side of them, and set the speed yourself. If you’d like it to be a bit more intimate, let your partner sit up against the headboard so you look into each other’s eyes. This position will allow you to control the pace and depth that his penis goes inside of you. Remember to go at an easy pace and stay relaxed. It helps to have strong orgasm and be highly aroused.”

Anal Sex Missionary Position

When it comes to anal sex, missionary will never steer you wrong. In the missionary position, you lift your two legs up (either place your legs on his chest or shoulders) thereby opening your anus directly for his thrust. With the right amount of lube and relaxation, even initial penetration should be pleasurable. Missionary is effortless for her pleasure, it’s all about the mood you and your partner are in. With a slow rhythm and gentle massaging of each other’s bodies with a warm, fragrant oil this position is intimate and sensual. With restraints and little dirty talk, your old favorite becomes your kinky new one.

Anal Sex Doggy Position

No list of anal sex positions would be complete without this particular style. In fact, it’s the position most of us first attempt anal sex with. This position is most often associated with anal sex because it has major advantages. As the partner at the back, you can stay loose as you control penetration to increase pleasure. This rear-entry position puts you both in a pose that is primal and energetic, which is fantastic for those very comfortable with anal sex. However, even the most experienced have encountered discomfort when the thrusting partner has become too excited and entered too deep, too quickly -this is where communication is important. Always notify your partner when he is thrusting too deep to prevent any form of pain or injury.

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After this learning, you have to do few quick readings, we have listed some anal sex guides for you – after reading these guides you will surely become anal sex expert – who knows how to perform anal sex safely, causing no harm to the receiver and yourself.

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  1. girlyboy99 says:

    Whether it ass, penis or vagina. Use juices to make it tasty and lickable. Well as far as practicing oral skills, I would suggest you buy a banana or two and practice with it as if it was a penis, or you could use a Popsicle in the same manner. I found the best practice was with a penis. When two people are together sexually for the first time it is always a bit awkward. You don”t know what they like, they don’t know what you like. As far as anal penetration goes, you can’t just shove your penis in his, her rear or him or yours, especially for the first time or someone is going to be screaming and that will probably be the last time you ever do anal. The first time I was penetrated we went to fast and when my cherry was popped I shot off that dick like a rocket and laid there in pain for about 5 minutes rubbing my backside. After the pain slowed I added some more lube and was brave enough to try it again. This time it went in very slowly and gave me a chance to adjust to the size and strange new feeling of something going up your butt instead of out of it. As the penis pulled out I felt as if I was pooping, then it came back in and out and in, you get the picture.. Soon, It was the most awesome feeling in the world. I went from a nervous boy to a cat in heat. It was so awesome. As I was impaled faster and harder I felt a pressure inside me and all of a sudden I was ejaculating all over the bed, and I wasn’t even hard. It turned me into a total bottom. I would say to you, if you are going to be penetrated, have your partner lube and finger you while he gives you oral, then add a second finger, then work up to a 3rd, making sure to use lots of lube. Then you should be ready for the real thing. Make sure he enters you slowly and if it take 5 minutes to get it in then it takes 5 minutes. But once he is all the way in, just rest and get used to the fullness you will feel, then you can start with the in and out. Start slow then as you get used to it he can pick up the speed. If done right, you will become a bottom for sure. Some guys try it and don’t like it, but love to be the top so you just have to find what you like.

  2. karima ansari says:

    mai 4 baccho ki ammi hoon mujhe sex bahut pasand hai par fir bhi sohar ke hote hue bhi kami hue hai. mere dohar meri chut nahi chodte unko sirf meri gand pasand hai kya karo mai pysi rah jaati ho kaise inko samjhao ki anal sex auraton ko maja nahi deta hai koi kuch toh advise dijiye bahut meharbani hogi aapki