blow job versus hand job sex

Ask most men and they will admit that YES, they have experienced a bad handjob or a bad blowjob and of course – everyone has likely had the odd lack-lustre sexual experience. It takes time for a woman to perfect the art of sucking, licking and hand massaging. Years and experiences of a lady make her know how valuable those pointers are.

Since exploring sex is in continuous learning about sexual activities, it is better for readers to know some little tips on handjobs – or better yet, into practice! Why is it that the handjob is considered the black sheep of sex? How did it happened? Let me use this time to petition you to reconsider adding the handjob back into your repertoire.

Yes blow job is preferred by most men but handjob is simpler, easy and can be done almost anywhere! In the scheme of sexual acts, the handjob takes the least effort. Lube, a hand, a penis. That’s it, that’s all you need. Move your hand in a pleasingly frictional manner, and you’re done!

Blowjob need a set of sucking skills and movements while handjob can be mastered effortlessly. A bad blowjob can almost ruin a relationship however a not-so-good handjob is still a forgiven act. Insist on giving handjob to your men than habituating him for a blowjob, it will be better for you in future.

Let use check out some nuances of Hand Jobs versus Blow Jobs. We are focusing more on handjobs in a detailed manner – techniques to pleasing your man, consider this as resurrection of handjob in your life!

Hand Jobs

Giving A Hand Job

Let us begin with the hand job. Simple as it may sound, being good at this technique means paying a LOT of attention to the reactions he gives you. Of course, every man is different and may like things done in certain ways.

My input here carries the weight of having had some experience and some excellent feedback!! First off, do NOT assume it’s a pull toy – the preferred motion is stroking ‘towards’ his body. From what I know most guys want to experience the same sort of movement from your hands or mouth as they would as if you were having intercourse. Of course there is the standard back and forth jerking that most people know.

Now, learn to master that with JUST the right amount of grip (I say imagine holding a peeled banana – lightly enough so you don’t smush it at all but firm enough that you’ll have some banana residue on your hands afterwards). Once that step has been established it’s time to add the ‘twist’.

Imagine grasping your forearm and massaging in a twisting motion, this should be a good indication of the tension you are looking for. If your delivery of the twist contains too much grip it could cause your man to wince in pain instead of pleasure. So, if this is your first attempt at the twist then gradually work your grip – pay CLOSE attention to his response – when he looks to be in ecstasy – THAT’S your sweet spot – this is the grip you want – make a mental note.

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Taking It To The Next Level

To take this step to the next level work the back and forth motion with a slight twist and you’ve got a move that will make men drool. Advanced hand jobbers can apply the second hand to this motion – starting in the middle of the shaft and working the hands in a twisting motion base to tip and back to the middle again..(imagine every so lightly wringing out a wet cloth, similar idea here). If he’s not in love, he will be lol! All of these moves are enhanced with the use of lube or saliva as well! With all of these ‘moves’ I suggest starting slow and gradually building up speed – keep in mind this is not a race though, nor do most people desire these motions to be delivered with super speed.

In other words, guys and girls tend to like a ramp up to speed when it comes to being digitally pleasured. Ask for feedback ‘is that good?’ ‘do you want it faster or slower?’ – knowing what your partner enjoys is vital!! Plus, say it in a sexy voice and that just adds to the allure. A handjob is often severely underrated by both guys and gals. Guys assume that if they can masturbate, why do they want to have their woman do it for them? Especially if he can have a blowjob or have sex instead? Girls often assume that guys don’t want a handjob for the very same reason. However, a handjob can be absolutely divine if done correctly. Here are nine handjob techniques that will make your man beg fore more.

Hold His Scrotum Right Before He Is About To Orgasm

Right before your man is about to have an orgasm, lightly grab hold of his testicles, cupping them in your palm. If he enjoys firmer pressure, feel free to grasp more firmly or tug a little, depending on what feels best for him. Having this extra stimulation on his scrotum will intensify his orgasm, as well as allow you to feel his ejaculation from beginning to end.

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Have Him Thrust With His Pelvis

Instead of moving your hands alone while your partner sits or lies and receives his handjob, have him thrust with his pelvis while you hold your hands still. Not only does this make getting a handjob feel much different for him, it will also make him feel more in control of his climax. He may be able to reach orgasm faster this way, and it may be a technique you want to use if he takes a long time to reach climax through manual stimulation.

Form “Rings” With Your Thumb And Forefingers

Take your thumb and forefinger and touch them together, forming a “ring” with your fingers. Apply a generous amount of lube to your partner’s penis, and slip the “ring” over his shaft, moving it up and down.

Tighten your fingers together as much as is pleasurable to your man. Doing this softly or firmly will change the sensations and you can mix it up between the two for different feelings. You can also increase the pleasure factor of this technique by using both hands – two “rings” instead of one.

Rub Only The Tip Of His Penis

This works well if your partner is uncircumcised or has a very sensitive penis. If he doesn’t and requires firm stimulation of his shaft or scrotum to reach climax, this technique will not work as well. To do this, place a dollop or two of lube in your hand and rub your palm in circular motions over the head of his penis.

Hold his shaft with your other hand (or have him hold it for you) so that his penis stays in place. This technique can also be applied to a blowjob as well by simply keeping your mouth on the tip of the penis.

Use Both Hands

Instead of using one hand to give your lover a handjob, why not try using two? Rub the tip of his penis with one hand as indicated above, while massaging his scrotum or stroking his shaft with the other. He’ll love the sensation of two hands on his penis, because the majority of men only use one hand on themselves during masturbation.

Blindfold Him

While it’s true that men are visual creatures (duh – that’s why porn exists), sensory deprivation can be just as hot. Bring this element in to a handjob to make it extra sensational by blindfolding him when you start. The idea of not knowing what is coming next or exactly what you’re doing to create the sensations he’s feeling will get him hotter than ever.

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Masturbate – With His Penis

To give yourself pleasure while you’re pleasuring him, try rubbing his penis against your clitoris. You can rub the length of the shaft on it or simply just rub the head of it against you. Either way, it will feel absolutely divine for both you and him. Just make sure you use lots of good lube so everything is nice and slippery.

Describe The Handjob To Him As You’re Doing It

Dirty talk is a great way to spice up just about any sex act, especially a handjob.

Describe what you’re going to do to him before you do it, what you’re doing as you do it, what it feels like for you and how much you love it. Use lots of sensual, descriptive language like “hard” or “throbbing.”

Bring In Props

Don’t be afraid to bring a few sex toys into the bedroom when giving your partner a handjob.

Male masturbators feel absolutely amazing for guys when used with lube, and cock rings can prolong his erection and make each sensation much more powerful. Experiment with different sex toys to change up the different styles of pleasure you can give him with your hands.

Handjob Methods

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Switch Hitter Handjob

Use both hands, alternating back and forth in a pattern you develop to offer him the most arousal. He will notice the difference. Don’t get into a routine where the strokes are dull, and noncommittal. Give it to him good. Get him to the point where he’s singing out, “I second that hand motion!”

Double Whammy Handjob

How about going double or nothing! Bring both well-lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some cocks are so big they require both hands. If your partner’s doesn’t, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his balls, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft, move then together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion.

Pretend you’re holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands, one up, one down at the same time. There’s no doubt that two hands are better than one.

The Anvil Stroke Handjob

Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it. Meanwhile you’re bringing your corresponding hand down to the top of the shaft, creating an alternating beating motion, hence the name “anvil stroke.”

Think of those blacksmith duos who keep up a double beat pounding motion as they beat that rod of iron on a piping-hot anvil.

The Shuttle Cock Handjob

Not many people have heard of the “shuttle cock,” but it’s one of the best. Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. In order to visualize the position, think of yourself holding a clarinet. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding on to the loose skin of the shaft. Shuttling it back and forth in this manner may not seem incredibly thrilling to him at first, but pretty soon, as it builds up momentum, it will drive him out of his mind.

Orgasms encountered via this method are sometimes messy, but always memorable.

The Book Ends Handjob

Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down. Continue in this manner for a while.

The constant tugging of the skin around the balls and the mons pubis will do the trick.

The Flame Giver Handjob

Place your hands down on either side, your fingers pointing away from the cock. Pretend you’re a campfire girl and start spinning his pecker like a stick of wood. This way you’ll keep the home fires burning for a long time to come.

The Base Clutch Handjob

Tighten your thumb and forefinger around the base of the shaft, pressing down on the balls. This will cut off the blood (acting as an impromptu cock ring) and help you steady the shaft in your hand. If the skin on it is slick and immutable, you can stroke the penis with more friction, thereby enhancing the excruciating experience.

The Tug Handjob

As you are stroking him, lightly pull on the wispy strands of pubic hair sprouting from his testicles. Don’t pull so hard that you remove them, but tease them gently, lovingly. This will make him holler with delight and awe at your inventiveness.

The Two Timer Handjob

Tickle his balls with one hand while the other jerks him up and down.

The Thigh Swatter Handjob

Use the hand that is currently unemployed to firmly but lovingly pat his inner thighs.

Fist Forward Handjob

Place your fist against his perineum as you’re stroking him. He’ll probably start opening his legs a little wider, giving you more space to press against. Guaranteed to drive him wild.As always, it is the psychological impact of what you are doing that makes the sex so satisfying. Let your mind escape into the uncharted wilderness of fantasy. As a sexual pioneer, it is your manifest destiny to explore the outer limits of your sensuality.

The Milking Handjob

Opposite of the Anvil – Hands alternate ‘milking’ up the penis, starting at the base and working all the way up past the tip.

The perpetual Penetration Handjob

Like the Anvil, but rather than just grabbing the penis at the top, let his penis ‘penetrate’ into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper into an infinite vagina. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous for best results. Try faster or slower to taste.

The Palm Swirl Handjob

Use your open palm to swirl around the head, the way your tongue would lick an ice cream cone. This sensitizes the head, and will make it get larger and turn (even more) red. Try reversing direction for a surprise.

Tiny Circles Handjob

As in “The Palm Swirl”, use your open palm on his glans, but stop at each “hour of the clock”, and make circular motions with your open palm. This will make this part of the head EXTREMELY sensitive, so move to the next hour after a few circles.

The Ring Handjob

Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger, and pump up and down with this ring. When you get to the top, close the ring, then make him squeeze his way in as you slide back down to the bottom.

The Knob Handjob

Turn the head of his penis like a you’re trying to open a door knob coated with grease. It won’t turn, but he may flip. Now try turning the other way. Repeat.

The Shaft Handjob

Stroke only his shaft, ignoring the head. You will notice it swelling and turning red. When it’s bright red and rock hard, use the Door Knob, the Palm Swirl, or the Perpetual Penetration.

The Spot Pinch Handjob

Lightly and slowly run a finger up the under side of his cock. Ask him to tell you where the most sensitive spot is. Pinch it, squeeze it, nibble it, tease it. This is a good spot to pinch to turn a soft cock rock solid.

Blow Jobs

What About Blow Jobs?

Regarding blow jobs, from what I’ve heard one of the biggest complaints that men have about receiving a bad blow job (sounds like an oxymoron but it does exist lol!) is that some women suck too hard. When giving a blow job use finesse, keep it wet and loose and ALWAYS bring in the tongue play. Never get into Hoover mode – save that for the hickeys alone! Always remember, soft and wet, take it in, continue to work your hands at the base creating continuous motion.

To drive him over the edge, work your tongue just under the tip, this is one of the most sensitive areas for men guaranteed to drive him wild! One of my signature moves is slow slippery circles of my tongue just under the tip. Most guys love the idea of a woman being able to take him into her mouth deeply. Relax your mouth and once in a while go as far down as you can. Whether you reach the baseline or not, the attempt will be greatly appreciated!! Another no-no would be the use of teeth when giving a blow job. It takes a skilled woman to know how to successfully and ‘ever-so-feather-lightly’ use her teeth when giving a blow job.

If you do cross that line be on guard for any and every flinch! Most guys also LOVE a good lick job. Incorporate this with your blow job skills and you’re away to the races! Lick his shaft and tip as if you were licking an ice cream cone. Up and down, all around the sides – he will be quivering with excitement!

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Getting Into The “Nether” Regions

Anyone giving tips regarding how to give a good hand job or blow job would be remiss if they left out the added bonus of working your man’s testicles, or ‘boys’ as I like to call them.. Now, if there is one thing you need to know about the ‘boys’ it’s that they are extremely sensitive so whatever attention you give to them needs to be done with that in mind.

A feather light touch goes a long way when it comes to the ‘boys’. I have yet to meet a guy who doesn’t love to have some attention paid to them though. Be it a caress or a slippery lick, if it’s gentle, it’s good! I do however, have a move – that when executed correctly can be very intense for your fella. When giving a blow job or hand job I use my other hand to gently pull my thumb down the middle of the scrotum between the testicles and hold it there.

This causes the skin on the shaft to pull down creating even more intensity at the tip while tightening up the skin around the ‘boys’ thus making them even more sensitized. A little side note here, if your guy ‘manscapes’ (a.k.a shaves) his ‘boys’ then you know he likely desires you to venture down there for some extended play.

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Blow Job Do’s

– Lick it like a lollipop.

– Look up at him with a look of appreciation in your eyes, like you can’t believe your good fortune to be sucking on his penis.

– Gently suck or lick his balls once in a while, but be careful! They must be handled with care.

– Disengage the mouth and tongue long enough to jack it a few times before going at it again. – Swirl your tongue around the head.

– Give him a BJ while it’s still wet from being inside your vagina. YES. That is a huge turn-on.

– Deep throat, but only if you can suppress the gag reflex.

– Moan with pleasure.

– SWALLOW (only if you like)!

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Blow Job Don’ts

– Use teeth. OUCH!

– Try to jam your tongue down the hole in the tip. OUCH! Very painful.

– Spit on it.

– Slobber on it.

– Deep throat if it causes you to gag. Nobody wants a BJ if they fear you’re going to puke at any moment.

– Rush it. We don’t want to feel like you’re just fulfilling your sexual obligation.

– Spit out his load. Don’t ever spit. If you can’t swallow, don’t let his sperm get in your mouth. Spitting feels like a personal rejection for some men others like to get their penis spitted with semen.

If you absolutely do have to spit, make it seem like you just couldn’t handle his voluminous load and you had to spit to prevent drowning in semen.

Otherwise it is perfectly fine if you do not want to swallow semen. Say upfront to the man that you are not a swallower. It is good to be honest and direct. This way, you will also help yourself from post oral-sex trauma.

Many girls do not like to swallow semen. Rather than feeling bitter after the blowjob it is better to enjoy whatever you do. And if you like to give handjob and not blow job then that is also fine. Most men love honest talk and reservations addressed before doing the job. Remember, your blowjob performance matters on understanding your weakness and strength. Be a good handjob giver if you hate blowjobs.

Blowjob Basic Rules

Make Him Squirm Giving Blowjob

When learning the art of how to give a blow job, many girls are eager to just get it over with. Little do they realize that one of the best tricks at their disposal is anticipation (aka making him squirm). By building anticipation, your man is going to get more and more eager for his blow job, to the point where he is almost begging you for it. This is what will make your blowjob one that he will never forget. So here are some examples and tips of how to build anticipation before giving him the blowjob:

  • Start by rubbing his penis outside of his pants.
  • Then put your hands inside his pants and start to stroke it.
  • Next you can start moving down towards his crotch. But rather than putting his penis straight into your mouth, keep stroking it and kiss it every once in a while.
  • By this stage your man will be praying for you to give him a blowjob. A good sign to look out for is precum. If you can see it, it’s a sign that he desperately wants you to take him in your mouth.

By building up his anticipation and making him squirm, he will enjoy his blowjob a lot more. This is because the whole process will have lasted far longer, so when he does come for the actual blow job, it will feel much more pleasurable.

Magic Fingers in Blow Job

One thing that a lot of people forget about when learning how to give a blowjob to a guy is that it’s not just about your mouth. You can and should also use your fingers and hands while giving him a blow job to heighten his pleasure. There are a number of specific things that you can do with you hands and fingers:

  • Use your fingers and hands to gently massage his balls while you are giving him a bj. His testicles and scrotum are incredibly sensitive so make sure to rub them gently and don’t squeeze them too hard!
  • Use your hands to jerk him off while sucking the tip of his penis.
  • Rub his perineum. This is the area between his anus and his scrotum. It’s also incredibly sensitive and feels wonderful for the man.

Slow Mover is a Good Blow Job Giver

This last tip may sound a little counter-intuitive when learning how to give a guy a blowjob. Sure men can get aroused incredibly quickly, but the longer his blowjob lasts, the more enjoyment he will get from it. So even if you aren’t enjoying it that much, you should still try to make it last as long as possible for him. If you are interested in learning more about how to give a perfect blow job to your man then you need to check out other studies given in healthise, punch your keyword and search through millions of articles. It’s the ultimate resource when it comes to this intimate things.

Safety Note:

Cleaning your mouth both before and after a blowjob will help you avoid infection is a misconception. Do not clean right away before or after blowjob.

  • Take 5 minutes of break, gargle with lukewarm water then after 45 minutes brush your teeth. Because brushing instantly softens gums and enamels, many sexually transmitted diseases can be transferred (caught or passed on) through oral sex without the use of a condom.
  • It’s difficult to say how long an infection from his sperm would survive in your mouth, but bacteria and viruses love your mouth, especially the back of your throat, so it might be a long time.
  • Brushing thereafter gargling is less dangerous, but the concept remains the same: you can create an opportunity for any illness to enter your bloodstream by brushing. A light brushing with a soft bristle toothbrush should enough, but a mouthwash rinse may be preferable.
  • Brushing your teeth does have the potential to raise your risk of catching a STI. When it comes down to it, condoms are the only way to be truly safe with blowjobs. If you like to have a hygienic blowjob and worry about STI infections then using condoms is a practical method. However, most men prefer condomless blowjob.

Hopefully this gives you some ideas on how to work your man. It’s a good place to start anyway, never forget though, pay attention to the reactions you get, ask what he likes and be attentive. Communication is key to the best sex life you can have, whether it is underrated handjob or highly rated blowjob!

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