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In cunnilingus, the man pr a woman stimulates partner’s vulva and clitoris with ips and tongue. Sometimes women sit on sofa or table and spread legs while pressing mouth of a partner on her vagina, pressing the head harder with her hands.

Normally women prefer to lie on bed and enjoy the deep lick.

For most women, cunnilingus gives the most delicious sensual pleasure and is the best way of climaxing.

Do you know that cunnilingus is the single best sexual activity that can almost guarantee to give a woman a mind-blowing orgasm? According to research, more than 81% of women regularly achieve orgasms from cunnilingus when compared to only 25% of them from traditional intercourse. Why is this so?

It is because during cunnilingus, you are stimulating her clitoris with your tongue. A woman’s clitoris is extremely sensitive as it has more than 8,000 nerve endings. So if you know the right way to perform cunnilingus, you can send her to orgasm heaven.

With varieties of different cunnilingus positions, you will be able to give your lover an essence of change during cunnilingus. This will make her more excited and help her to achieve more mind-blowing orgasms than you ever thought imaginable.

Although there are different cunnilingus positions that you can try out with your lover, you need to make sure that you do not change a new position every few minutes. Your lover will think that you are not comfortable with cunnilingus and also causing her to lose the sensation from your act. This will greatly turn her off.

So now by understanding that with varieties of cunnilingus preparations and positions, you will be able to make her achieve better orgasms.

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Cunnilingus Sex Preparation

Now, let me share with you some tips to give her cunnilingus orgasm:

1. Prepare her for cunnilingus

Sometimes, a woman can get pain from cunnilingus when she is not prepared for it. Therefore, you should relax both her mind and body before a cunnilingus session. Take a hot bath together and give her a sensual massage. Be as romantic as possible – women like it. Be perseverant, slow and gentle when you lick her vagina.

The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s body and is partially if not wholly responsible for a woman’s orgasm during cunnilingus – why not go straight for it?  That’s the “orgasm button,” right?  Well, yes.  But also remember that it can be painfully sensitive as well – which means that direct stimulation can sometimes have the exact opposite effect that you want it to.  But didn’t you do all the “preheating” with the warm bath and the sensual conversation?  Of course, but keep in mind that you were only relaxing her mind and body.  Now you need to get her vulva involved.

If you’re not heading straight for the clitoris, where do you go?  That’s easy – everywhere else. One of the most sensual and exciting experiences for a woman during cunnilingus is to have her entire vulva explored eagerly and completely with a warm, wet tongue.  Let us emphasize eagerly and completely – make a few sounds as though you were eating something really delicious (well, you are, aren’t you?) and don’t let an inch of her vulva escape your tongue.  There are, however, a few tongue techniques that you can utilize before moving directly to the clitoris.

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Wide, slow strokes

You’ll want to spread your tongue out wide, like you were about to lick an ice cream cone. Start at her perineum (or her vaginal opening if you don’t want to go quite that far down south) and work your way up.  If you’re not pressing too hard, you can go over the clitoris – this indirect licking, if you will, wakes up her clitoris and gets it ready for what’s to come.  This “wide lapping” move is a great first move – it simply feels wonderful to have a warm, wet tongue covering the entire vulva and moving up slowly, enhancing every last sensation.  You’ll want to spend a good one to two minutes utilizing this technique at first, and then it can be mixed in with other techniques either before focusing on the clitoris or during primary clitoral stimulation.

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In Between the Labia

his is a great move to help transition from the wide, slow strokes into more detailed cunnilingus. You can use a wide tongue during this stroke as well, or you can mix it up and use a semi-pointed tongue.  A very sharp and pointed tongue is generally not something you want to use during this particular technique – leave that to clitoral flicking, which we’ll go over later in the clitoral stimulation techniques.  Remember how we said that it feels divine to have an eager tongue explore every nook and cranny of her vulva?  This is primarily the technique that will give her that sensation.  Use your flat or semi-pointed tongue (semi-pointed does work best) and work your way slowly in between her inner and outer labia from top to bottom.  You can even nibble her labia gently with your teeth (or, if you’re concerned about your teeth being too sharp, you can use the same technique with your lips turned inward and covering your teeth) to give her added pleasure.

Again, you’ll want to avoid the clitoris for the most part during this technique; however, if your lady is getting a little antsy, you can lick between her labia and move up, brushing the side of the clitoris with the side of your tongue.  This works well if she seems to be craving clitoral stimulation, but keep in mind that at this point, the clitoris is most likely still too sensitive to strike head-on.  Another great technique you can use while focusing more on the entirety of the vulva (before reaching the clitoris) is what some like to call a “lollipop lick.”

This sort of lick encompasses the entire area and, similar to the motions used while licking a lollipop (and we mean those big ones you get at amusement parks and Chuck E. Cheese’s) – from the outside in.  Start on the outside of her labia and work your way inward using slow and wide tongue strokes.  If you wish, you can end the “lollipop” on her clitoris and begin to use the clitoral techniques outlined below.

Tongue Thrusting Vagina

Again, a great move to help transition from either a wide, flat “ice-cream cone” tongue or labia exploring into more focused cunnilingus. Bring your tongue back down to her vaginal opening and insert it gently, much like you would a finger if you were pleasuring her with your hands.  You may find that either you or your partner does not like very deep tongue thrusting, so start out very light and gentle until you get a feel for it.  Just licking barely in and out of the vaginal opening will give her a great feeling, so no need to try and reach her cervix with your tongue.  This is also a great place to begin working on your tongue flicking, which you will use later on her clitoris when she is more geared up and nearer orgasm.  Her vaginal opening is sensitive as well (not as sensitive as the clitoral head or shaft) and she will get a wonderful preview of the tongue strokes you are getting ready to use that will bring her to a delicious orgasm.

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Use your Lips on Vagina

Although the tongue is the most powerful muscle in the body, there’s just nothing that compares to a soft set of lips caressing the entire vulva. This creates a soft, sucking sensation that will send chills down her spine (and you will probably receive a few moans in appreciation).  You can use your lips as an icebreaker to clitoral stimulation since they are much softer than your tongue, or you can use them on the rest of the vulva, particularly the labia.  Gently sucking her labia in and out of your pursed lips feels exceptionally wonderful, but make sure that if you are going to use your lips that they are nice and wet (by this time, she may already be wet enough for the both of you).  If, however, you find them somewhat dry, you can lick them to moisten them and you can even incorporate this movement into the cunnilingus itself.  A great way to use both the lips and the tongue together during cunnilingus is to act as though you’re French kissing her vulva.  This feels great!  Again, it gives your partner the sensation of having her most sensitive and private parts be fully explored, kissed and caressed.  Another variation on this technique is to place your entire mouth on her vulva.  You can then move into a gentle sucking or use your open mouth to gently blow warm air onto her vulva.

WARNING:  DO NOT BLOW AIR INTO HER VAGINA(LIKE BLOWING UP A BALLOON) – THIS ISDANGEROUS AND MAY CAUSE SERIOUSCOMPLICATIONS AND MAY EVEN RESULT IN DEATH.

Tip:  It is at this stage that you want to begin developing a rhythm.  You are about to enter the clitoral technique section and as we’ve said before, aroused clitorises are much too sensitive for sudden movements.  You can begin introducing your partner to a rhythm (fast, medium or slow, depending on her current mood and the circumstances) before focusing on her clitoris.  Go from gently flicking your tongue around her vaginal opening and fourchette to exploring her labia and move back and forth between these moves for a short while.  You can integrate any move you want during this time, but the main idea is to get her settled into a type of rhythm so she can know what to expect when your tongue reaches her clitoris.

Again, keep in mind that these preparations are getting your partner warmed up for clitoral technique and that they are not a substitute for clitoral technique.  Should you feel like spending a fair amount of time south of the clitoris (such as licking and sucking her labia or tongue thrusting her vaginal entrance), don’t forget to mix a few clitoral strokes in with these moves.  A clitoris left alone when aroused is much like the legendary “blue balls” for men – it is uncomfortable and it just plain doesn’t feel good.  You can utilize the clitoral techniques below and integrate them with the moves above for an excellent beginning to a cunnilingus session, before focusing completely on the clitoris and bringing home the orgasm.

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Clitoral Stimulation in Cunnilingus

It is important to note here that most women respond well to clitoral stimulation outside the clitoral hood.  Like we’ve mentioned many, many times in this book, the clitoris is often much too sensitive to handle direct stimulation (meaning stimulation of the clitoral head – also called glans – itself).  An outside approach works best – after all, the protection of the clitoral head is exactly what the clitoral hood was designed to do.  There’s no need to go digging around underneath the clitoral hood with your tongue to find the head – this will only cause extreme discomfort and in some cases, even pain.  Any of these clitoral stimulation techniques can be performed with the tongue focused on the outside of the clitoral hood, with the exception of the upwards stroke.  It is also important to note here that any one of these moves in and of themselves is not enough to bring your partner to orgasm.  Moves and techniques must be repeated and varied – keep your partner guessing!  Don’t forget, however, that you must also develop a rhythm and keep it, especially close to orgasm.  Keeping that in mind, let’s go over some of the tongue techniques in more detail.

Sweeping Clitoris

This move is great! It simply feels wonderful to a woman and should be a staple of any cunnilingus diet.  It is a fairly easy move – position your tongue on either the right or left side of the clitoris and move from side to side as though you were sweeping a floor.

Variations of Sweeping Clitoris

Using both fast and slow strokes (it is best to start out a bit slower at first so as not to surprise your partner and gradually move into a faster pace) can maximize the pleasurable outcome of this particular technique.  This technique can also be utilized with a vertical motion, however, as we’ve said before, licking with an upwards stroke will expose the all-toosensitive clitoral head and may turn your partner off entirely.  You can certainly try it – some women do like upwards strokes on their clitoris.  If she responds well, use this vertical motion in conjunction with other tongue techniques.

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Circles on Clitoris

This too is one of the best and most pleasurable clitoral technique in cunnilingus. You’ll want to use this one a lot, because it can rarely get boring!   The technique is somewhat self-explanatory – again, you’ll position your tongue either to the left or right of your partner’s clitoris.  You will begin to move your  tongue in circles around the clitoris only, either in a clockwise or counter-clockwise motion.  This feels excellent when your partner is fairly aroused because it gives the clitoris plenty of stimulation outside the hood where it is well-received, but once your tongue gets to the 6:00 position on the “clock” of the  clitoris, she will get a lovely preview of your tongue on her sensitive clitoral head.

Variations of Circles on Clitoris

Again, you can use either fast strokes or slow strokes, and as always, slow works best in the beginning if you choose to use the circular motion in the beginning of your cunnilingus routine.  You can, of course, start out with a medium to fast pace if your partner is already sufficiently warmed up.  As with most of the clitoral techniques outlined in this section, the strokes can also be varied in their degrees of softness or hardness.  A soft tongue works best at the beginning when your partner is still getting her “oven” turned on and strokes with more pressure are excellent when your partner is nearing orgasm.  Another way to vary the technique with this move or other moves is to change your tongue “shapes.”  A tongue can be pointed to create more of a snake-like, darting sensation or it can be wide and soft, mimicking a puppy-dog lapping sensation.  The latter in particular is a wonderful trick to have in your cunnilingus arsenal – it will keep one move from becoming monotonous even though it is technically the same move!  Just remember – variation (yet still keeping a repetitive rhythm) is key to giving your partner the  most exquisite and mind-blowing orgasm.          

 Suction of Clitoris

This is a move that is best performed when your partner is sufficiently aroused. Suction too early in the game may turn her off completely by putting too  much pressure on her sensitive clitoris too soon.  You’ll want to take her clitoris gently into your mouth and lightly suck on it – much as though you were drinking from a straw.  Remember; don’t get too rough with this move!  This can be easy to do, so it is very important that you pay attention to your partner’s cues and movements.  If she seems to be shrinking away before her orgasm, lighten up on the suction or discontinue sucking her clitoris at all.  Most women enjoy this move; however, some do not so always make sure you are aware of your partner’s responses to ensure that you aren’t using any techniques that are uncomfortable to her.

Variations of Clitoris Suction

Although most techniques of this type can be utilized with either a soft or a “hard” tongue or done fast or slow, this movement in particular is best done with extreme care – meaning soft and slow!  One variation that you can employ while using the suction technique is to go from sucking just on her clitoris alone to encompassing her entire vulva in your mouth and gently sucking on the entire area for just a few moments – or longer if she seems to be enjoying it!  You can certainly switch between the two for awhile – it will give her that  wonderful feeling of being taken all into your mouth while giving her clitoris the much needed attention it craves during this time.

ABCs of Clit

You might have heard of this technique before, but then again, you might have not. This may quite possibly be the best technique outlined in this book, so listen up!  It may sound funny, but you’ll once again position your tongue (a pointed one works best here) either to the side or at the top of her clitoris and begin using your tongue to draw your ABC’s.  Yes, you heard right.  This gives your partner a clitoral sensation similar to that of the circular stroke (most of the movement is performed outside of the clitoral hood while just a few strokes end up contacting the clitoral head itself) and simply feels divine to your partner.  But wait a second!  If the sensations are really all that similar to the circular strokes, why even do the ABC strokes at all?  Well, there’s the money question.  The ABC stroke is as powerful as it is because it gives just the right amount of contact to both the clitoral hood and the clitoral head while mixing things up.  You get the best of all the worlds – perfect contact, an excellent rhythm but here’s the rub –  no two strokes are exactly the same.  The different letters that you’ll be tracing with your tongue allow for enough variation to keep your partner guessing and on  the edge – of orgasm!  Very few men with sufficiently warmed up partners have made it all the way to the letter Z.

Variations of ABCs

It is difficult to vary a practically perfect technique – and yes, we’re going so far as to say that the ABC technique is perfect.  However, there are some other “preschool” based techniques that you can use if your partner shows the need for more repetition and less variation during cunnilingus.  You can try tracing your shapes instead (circle, square, triangle, rectangle, octagon, etc.) or you can spell words to your lover such as “I love you,” “You’re amazing” or anything else you can think of.  You can also trace numbers – count from one to . . .well, until she orgasms!

Vacuum

This move is fairly self-explanatory, however, you want to be careful not to suck too hard. Place your mouth over your partner’s clitoris and gently (we emphasize gently) suck it in and out of your mouth.  This is a move best used when your partner is already warmed up and is fairly close to orgasm. Using it before your partner is fully ready (too early during cunnilingus) may result in her rejecting the sensation completely.  You also want to avoid using this move during her orgasm unless your partner specifically requests it.  It may be too strong of a sensation during an orgasm.

Variations of Vacuum

Use the tip of your tongue to gently flick her clitoris while it is in your mouth – release her clitoris and repeat.  Vary this move with just the suction move and you’ll soon have your honey in orgasm heaven.  Just remember not to use this move too often – it is a very powerful move and if used too much, can create numbness or insensitivity to the suction.  Used sparingly and at the right times, however, can be very beneficial during a cunnilingus session.

The Messy Vagina Eater

This is a tricky one, although it may not sound like it at first. Some women may really go for this (especially very close to and during an orgasm) and others may be turned off by the mere name of it. The best way to find out which category your partner is in is to either ask her directly or try it once and gauge her reaction.  Basically, this move encompasses all the other techniques (such as tongue circles or gentle vacuum suction) but in somewhat of a “smorgasbord” fashion.  You’ll want to cradle both legs in your arms (her thigh will be in the crease of your elbow and your hands should come up around and rest on her hip bones) and…well, dig in!  This is a move where attitude really pays off – you’ve got to act like you’re hungry and you just can’t get enough of it. On the same token, however, you’ve still got to keep in mind that the clitoris is very sensitive and although you may be going at it like you’re at a pie-eating contest, you don’t want to go caveman on her and rough her up.  Keeping a balance between the two is really what makes this move worthwhile.

TIP:  If you’ve exhausted all your moves and are looking

for a new repertoire, try watching people eat while you’re out at lunch or dinner. People eat in very different ways and you may just pick up a technique or two while watching someone eat a salad in a hurry on their lunch break or savor a decadent dessert on a dinner date.  Make a mental note of the lip and tongue movements used and use them during cunnilingus the next time you go south of the border.  You might just give your sweetie something new to talk about at work!

The best thing to do when preparing for cunnilingus and the different strokes you’ll use is to keep an open mind.  Get creative!  While there are only so many different types of tongue techniques that you can actually use, you can alter the order in which you use them, the pressure of the touch and more to make them completely different moves!  Don’t be afraid to make up your own moves too!  If using ice or hot tea really turns you and your partner on, go for it!

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If your partner only enjoys one or two tongue techniques but she really gets off on them, don’t be afraid to stick with just those moves to get her to orgasm time and time again.  You don’t have to get all the techniques perfectly either to impress your partner – remember, you’re not trying to impress her anyway!  Even if she doesn’t orgasm the first few times you perform cunnilingus on her, don’t get frustrated.  Keep trying!  Your efforts will be much appreciated and she can enjoy a cunnilingus session without having to have an orgasm as a result of it.  Just keep an open mind!

2. Do not go for the clitoris right from the beginning

This is cunnilingus master trick – do not go for the clitoris too early during a cunnilingus session. When a woman is not turned on enough, stimulating her clitoris may cause her pain instead of pleasure. So make sure that you use your tongue to stimulate other parts before going for the clitoris.

3. Vary your cunnilingus techniques

Sometimes, cunnilingus can become boring if you use the same cunnilingus techniques every time. So remember to change your techniques every now and then to make her guessing on the edge of orgasm, different oral sex positions of licking vagina help her achieve multiple orgasms.

It is time to move on to the different cunnilingus positions that you can try out with her.

Cunnilingus Sex Pose

Cunnilingus Position #1: “69”

This is one of the most popular cunnilingus positions of all times among lesbians and couples. In this position, both you and your lover can perform cunnilingus at the same time. But the problem with this position is that it is very easy to lose concentration when you are receiving a very good oral. One way to solve this problem is while one is performing cunnilingus; the other can gently lick and stimulate the genitals.

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Cunnilingus Position #2 Doggy

The doggie style, this position starts with the woman get into the usual intercourse doggie position, with her all fours on the bed or floor. You can then position yourself within sucking and licking distance of her vulva. This position is very flexible for you as you can also go under her body and position yourself in regards to her vulva.

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These are just 2 cunnilingus positions that you can try out with your lover. Remember, with more varieties of cunnilingus positions, you will be able to let her enjoy different cunnilingus sessions.

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Oral sex is also extremely arousing for the partner.

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