In this busy world it can be difficult to find time to connect with our children. I find the best times to connect with my kids is over dinner and at bedtime. This varies in each household, but I try to make an effort to talk to my children openly whenever possible just to show them I am available and willing to hear what they have to say.
Below are a few questions that will help you connect with your child while learning about the things that interest them, because knowing our children means we can raise them in a more positive way. These questions are designed to build your child’s self-esteem, clue you in to their interests, and help start a conversation on key social issues without being confrontational.
10 Questions that will bring you close to your child
- What are you most proud of yourself for doing?
- Who is the nicest person you know? Why?
- What is something that makes you angry or sad? Why? and What can you do to change it?
- What are three words that describe you?
- What is your favorite thing about school? What is your happiest memory this so far year?
- What is one thing you would like to learn to do? Why?
- Do you know someone who is suffering? How do you wish you could help them?
- What do you most like about one of your closest friends? What do you least like?
- What is the best thing someone has ever said to you? How did it make you feel?
- If you could change one thing about your life what would it be?
The questions above are only a few examples of ways that you can get you children talking about things that are important to them. They can be reworded so they are appropriate for any age. The point is to promote open communication and approach touchy social subjects in a more indirect manner. I have found in the past that kids are more likely to open up about issues when they are not being directly asked, this seems even more true with older children who tend to be uncomfortable talking to grown-ups about their problems.
Try to use these questions (or some form of them) as part of your family routine, they can’t hurt and you never know what you might learn about your child. We all want to live happier more fulfilling lives, and I am sure that every parent aims to raise a positive, self-assured child, doing so requires a consistent effort on our part to provide the stepping-stones they need to see the positive aspects of life.