- What brought you to this page?
Does thinking about your marriage cause you tension and anxiety?
Are you tired of endless fights, anger and disappointment?
Exhausted by another tired, sleepless night of worry and confusion?
Have you tried everything else?
Are you feeling as if divorce may be inevitable?
Or, do you desire to make your marriage happier, stronger and better than ever before?
If so, you have come to the right place.
My name is Lee Baucom.
I am a professional family and marriage counselor with almost twenty years of experience working with couples that are struggling in their marriages.I created this site because I was shocked at the amount of useless “Save Your Marriage” advice that is being offered online.I’m not sure which is worse. . . the “amateur counselors” that are selling unproven and untested “save your marriage” guides. . . or the professionals that are still pushing dated and and potentially damaging methods and approaches.I know what works and what doesn’t.Early in my career, I was guilty of trying some of the same tired, ineffective techniques that you will find in the vast majority of “save your marriage” guides. . . and most therapists’ offices.But, years ago, I became frustrated with the poor success rate of these “traditional” approaches and created and developed techniques and approaches that were completely different and “radical.”Fortunately, for my clients. . . and you. . . these new techniques have proven to be significantly more effective than any other approach.
You may have heard of me on Dateline NBC or in a national magazine like “Men’s Health” because of the success of my approach.Most professionals see a success rate of no more than 20% in saving marriage relationships. The success rate in my practice approaches 90%!It is no accident that you found this page; everything happens for a reason.Please read the letter below. . . it may be the most important letter you ever read!Does this sound familiar to you?There was much sleeping on the couch and in the spare bedroom.They were constantly battling over the smallest issue — which only led to bigger issues.Threats and yelling were an almost everyday thing.
They both desperately wanted to be accepted and loved, but neither felt it. The more each tried, it seemed the further they moved apart.They had tried therapy, self-help books, seminars. But nothing seemed to make a difference.It seemed as if they were stuck in a vicious cycle. They knew they needed to change things in their relationship…but they just didn’t know how.I’m not going to convince you that I was able to undo years of fighting, struggling and disappointment in a day. But, with what they learned in my office that day, they decided to put their impending divorce “on hold.”Within a few weeks, there was a dramatic transformation in their marriage…
There were no angry arguments that went nowhere.There was no “living like roommates” or sleeping on the couch.There was No name-calling or tearing -down of each other.Their, previously sexless, marriage saw sparks of true pleasure and intimacy again.Last week, Kelly called to invite me to their anniversary and “re-commitment” ceremony!
Most marriage therapists are not trained to be marriage counse lors.They receive their training in traditional, individual therapy, and add marital counseling to their practice… after the fact.In other words, most marriage therapists have little expertise in helping a troubled marriage.And, when they do offer marital counseling, they are, usually, applying outdated, ineffective strategies that were never intended to help truly troubled marriages.This is why the best marriage counselors see a success rate of only 20%. . . if a medical procedure was that risky. . .it would be outlawed!
I know from experience, because I too was frustrated with such a low rate of success. I sincerely desired to help my clients to save their marriages. But, the techniques and strategies I learned in school seemed to be making things worse!Once I realized that “traditional” methods of marriage therapy don’t work, I determined to find and create strategies, techniques and methods that do work.It led me to abandon much of the “old school” ideas about how to help troubled couples…and so should you!Before you can begin your journey toward saving your marriage, you need to stop buying into The Four Most Damaging Myths About Saving Your Marriage.