Forget “fight or flight” as the only duo of responses in the face of stress. For women, there’s a third response: “befriend”. A landmark UCLA study turned five decades of stress research on its head with the revelation that a cascade of brain chemicals gives women a larger behavioral repertoire when confronted with stress. The hormone oxytocin is released as part of the stress response in women. It controls the fight/flight response and, instead, encourages her to tend children and gather with other women.

Accordingly to co-researcher Dr. Laura Cousino Klein, now assistant professor of bio-behavioral health at Penn State, the study suggests that this “tending and befriending” response to oxytocin produces a calming effect. Although it will take new studies to reveal all the ways in which oxytocin encourages women to care for children and band together, it might also explain why women consistently outlive men.

I have addressed numerous women’s conferences and corporate networks of women and I can attest to the observable behavior that participants leave these sessions feeling stronger, encouraged, and positive. I believe they also leave healthier. The famed Nurses Health Study from Harvard Medical School found that the more friends people have, they less likely they are to develop physical ailments and the more likely they are to cope better with challenges.

Sadly, today’s busy agendas often find women canceling the most positive and healthy thing they can do: gather with other women to engage in the kind of “rapport” and “report” talk that hallmark feminine conversations. The corporate women’s networks that generate the most return for the time and money investment allow for the nuts-and-bolts training needed for the business while also creating plenty of opportunity for mentoring, problem-solving and the informal sharing of personal issues.

Create a gathering of women and stand back. The energy reborn from conversation, caring, compassion and concern can move a community, a business, and a nation into a higher place.

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  1. One more thing since feminism is about women’s rights ONLY …by what right do they assume to shape the future of how men should live in their molded society and how realistic or feasible is this assumption unless we are talking about the final solution by virtue of the fact that they have a decisive say and influence in senates and parliaments?

    MRAs are about men’s rights ONLY so by what right do they claim to be working for the entire human society ?

    Some feminists claim that matriarchy is a loving, nurturing model of society …for whom ? And are they willing to expunge the rise of radical feminism to achieve this so called “loving and nurturing ” model of society?

    The same question applies to MRAs.
    EDIT : THOMAS ha ha ha mate you know i like your style ….perhaps there should be a comedy section in yahoo …where all humanists can go and make each other laugh and inwardly weep at what they see here at GS….we really have evolved …LOL!!!
    EDIT : TEMPLE AUDREY as much as i dote on you chiefly because of your ever changing avatars and because of your adorable posts ….i would like to advice you to not accept patriarchy …not until it is chastised from all its evils and the positive aspects retained and made to work for the good of all human society….YOU ARE A SWEET LASSIE!!!
    EDIT : TEMPLE AUDREY as much as i dote on you chiefly because of your ever changing avatars and because of your adorable posts ….i would like to advice you to not accept patriarchy …not until it is chastised from all its evils and the positive aspects retained and made to work for the good of all human society….YOU ARE A SWEET LASSIE!!!
    EDIT : YA COFFE i did have a look at those two posts and now i am having a look at yours….i don’t see any difference …by the way i should like to share that the brown shirts or SA Sturmabteilung were radical arm of Nazis and were expunged but only after the final solution was implemented…i am sure feminism would do the same once there objectives are achieved ….history repeats itself !!!
    Here is a link :
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sturmabteilung