Attraction, love, marriage, sex, family.. Ideally, this is the order how the stages of a relationship should be arranged chronologically based on a Christian point of view. A couple should first have the mutual feelings of being attracted to each other, fall in love and decides to make their vows in marriage. Only then shall the two can express their love for one another in a more intimate manner as love-making or having sex. Such union between a man and a woman will then be blessed, hopefully, with a child and then they become a family.
Ideal versus Reality
But the ideal is far from being real. Couples engaged in pre-marital sex way before they even get into high school. At the onset of puberty, kids begin to be curious about their sexuality. And without proper guidance, these kids explore and venture into the realm of the senses without much thought of the dire consequence of their impulsive actions. Come to think of it, teens are not the only ones guilty of such wanton behavior but even adults as well. Indeed, the world has gone to have a permissive attitude towards pre-marital sex. Now, it has become Attraction, sex, family, marriage, love or attraction, love, sex, family and marriage. That is, if the couple succeeds to carry on the relationship and becomes emotionally mature after going through the “un-ideal” but more “real” stages of life. Think before you do.
The Consequence of Pre-Marital Sex
Some people ask themselves, “is it ok to engage in pre-marital sex?” and in their minds try to weigh its pros and cons. On the positive side of the scale, there is peer acceptance and the gratification of sexual desires. After all, the kind of message we receive in the media today, be it on TV or in the movies, is that “everyone is doing it.” But the negative side of the scale carries the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancy and the heavy weight of moral consequence such as guilt. Thus, morality plays a vital role in dealing with the issues about pre-marital sex. Think before you do.
Raising a Family
Parenthood is one of the noblest tasks a married couple has to take as they carry on with their relationship. Some who are not blessed to have their own children would even go to the extent of adopting someone else’s child just so they can experience parenthood.
In most countries, there is no limit as to the number of child a parent can have as long as he can provide for their needs and welfare. However, due to economic situations parents have decided upon themselves to put a limit to the number of kids they want to raise, much to the consternation of the church. We all know that the church advocates procreation and is totally against family planning or birth control. Again, we are faced with the dilemma of choosing between having a big and happy brood than a small but a well-planned family. Think before you do.
Planned Parenthood and Birth Control
Family planning is not just to limit the number of kids a family could have but aims to improve the quality of life of each family member. It’s not just about birth control but laying a solid foundation for a better future.
The type of birth control you choose depends on your needs. Some people only need to prevent pregnancy. Modern couples try not to make babies in the first two years of marriage in order for them to enjoy each other as husband and wife. This will enable them to have strong bonding and prepares them for the coming of their future children. If and when they decide to have kids, they try to plan or limit its number as well as its succession. By doing so, they are able to manage and monitor the needs with respect to their financial, emotional and physical capabilities.
Other couples may also resort to contraceptives to protect themselves or their partners from diseases that can be passed by having sex. These diseases are called sexually transmitted diseases (STDs): AIDS, chlamydia, herpes, genital warts, gonorrhea and syphilis.
Statistics of Planned Parenthood shows that birth control paved the way for improved family life: “The maternal death rate has fallen more than 60 percent. The infant death rate has declined by more than 70 percent. Birth control not only saves lives – it helps women and their families prevent poverty, plan their futures, and take charge of their destinies.”
To decide which method to use at this point in your life, talk with your family doctor about the pros and cons of each birth control option. Better yet, think before you do.