Female ejaculation, is it real or perhaps just a golden shower? I have asked many men, of all ages, if they have had a partner who ejaculates when she orgasms? I have discovered that more men in their 20’s are likely to say yes and mature males in their 40’s are least likely to have experienced female ejaculation with their partner. Mostly guys will say that they have only seen female ejaculation when they have watched a porn film.

Some people have the conception that men are the only ones who can ejaculate but that is truly not the case – female ejaculation is also possible. A woman can ejaculate during sex and achieve amazing orgasms during or after. Female ejaculation also known as spurting or gushing can be achieved by any woman of any age. Secret: she only needs to be relaxed and comfortable during the sexual act or when she or her partner is stimulating her g-spot.

There is a lot of controversy about female ejaculation, however female ejaculation is real and with practice every women can experience intense and emotional all-body orgasm with ejaculation.

Facts About Female Ejaculation

Does a female have the sexual anatomy to ejaculate?

At human conception and up to eight weeks gestation, all human foetal development, male and female, begin life with female genital characteristics. At eight weeks gestation the male foetus, Y chromosome activates and begins to produce its own male hormones and male genital characteristics. Only then does the physical development of the male and female foetus change.

This means that the tissue that awakens at eight weeks gestation into the male prostate gland, is already present in the female foetus. Does it now make sense that the female anatomy has a prostate gland also? Female ejaculation is not urine. FE is actually near the exact chemical makeup as prostatic fluid; minus the sperm. The female prostate is also known as the female g-spot.

Every woman can ejaculate, small or large quantities and open to FE at her own pace. It is recommended that adult females learn to ejaculate on their own at first. Once a woman has successfully ejaculated by herself, then she will have more success ejaculating with a partner. Here are some reasons why a woman may have difficulty learning to ejaculate.

(a) A Strong PC Muscle

A women cannot ejaculate if she has weak PC muscles. The PC muscle is a long muscle that supports the pelvic floor between the pubic bone and the coccyx. A loose vagina is not a sign that a woman has slept around, it just means that her PC muscles are weak from lack of exercise. Successful female ejaculation will not be achieved until her PC muscles are tightened and strengthened. If her vagina feels loose during intercourse, that’s a sure sign that she needs to do PC muscle exercises.

(b) Her attitude towards ejaculation

Letting go and allowing the body to ejaculate is very difficult for most women to master. A woman will have a hard time ejaculating if she is afraid she is going to urinate on her partner or if she is unsure whether her partner may enjoy the experience.

(c) Deep-seated sexual issues

Awakening the G-spot can bring up all kinds of emotional issues for a woman. It is not uncommon for a woman to shut down abruptly once she begins learning to open to female ejaculation. Past negative messages and sexual assault can close down a woman’s capacity to express emotions, love and intimacy, therefore making it hard for her to allow her body to open up, surrender and trust sexually.

Female Ejaculation FAQs

Are female body fluids harmful to your health if you accidentally swallow them? Can women ejaculate? Is female ejaculate the same as urine? In the following paragraphs, you can find the answers to these questions and more on how you can pleasure a girl.

(1) Are female body fluids harmful if you accidentally swallow them?

Many women secrete quite large amount of body fluids during sex, especially if they are highly aroused for an extended period of time and/or experience female ejaculation. These fluids are a normal and natural part of women’s lives. There is nothing that is inherently bad or harmful about them.

(2) What is the difference between female prostate and male prostate?

When we begin life as a fetus in our mother’s womb, we are all physically female. It is only around the 8th week of gestation that the fetus starts to develop either male or female sexual organs. This means the tissues that eventually develop into the male prostrate gland, are also present in women. This results in woman having a prostrate gland too, which is also called paraurethral or Skene’s glands. While the male prostate wraps around the urethra (urine passage), the female prostrate lies inside the wall and along the length of the urethra.

(3) Can women ejaculate?

As explained above, yes they do. Within the prostrate gland, there is a very highly sensitive area, commonly known as g-spot. Sexual arousal and/or g-spot stimulation causes blood to rush into the tissues surrounding the prostrate, the pressures place on the vaginal wall and the contraction of the pelvic muscles can cause fluid to seep out through her body. This occurrence is what is commonly known as female ejaculation.

Female ejaculation is a voluntary action, therefore she has no control over it and the volume of ejaculate can vary from woman to woman. The female prostrate will continue to produce fluid for as long as a woman is sexually aroused. Therefore she can produce more than 0.2 to 2.0 ounces of ejaculate if multiple releases of fluid occur when the female prostrate is being filled up and emptied at a quick rate. This will also mean the longer a woman’s orgasm lasts, the more she will ejaculate. This explains why in certain instances, a woman can produce large volume of ejaculate.

(4) What is the difference between female ejaculate and urine?

The confusion over female ejaculate and urine is due to conflicting research results to determine the source(s) of female ejaculate. Some research concludes it is only fluid from the female prostrate while other research says it is mostly liquid from the bladder with trace amount of fluid from the female prostrate.

While we are unable to determine the source(s) of the female ejaculate, one thing for sure, is there is clear difference between the female ejaculate and urine though they share common substances. Some of these common substances PSA, PAP and PSAP (components of female prostatic fluid) are at a higher concentration in the ejaculate than in urine.

The female ejaculate can vary over time and during a single sexual encounter in terms of color, smell, taste and volume. Menstrual cycle can influence the type of fluid being secreted. What you eat and how much you drink can also have an effect on it. In small quantities, it may look mucous-like having a clear, milky, or yellowish coloration with a possible distinct scent that is musky or pungent. But when the fluid increases in volume and becomes clear there is no longer any detectable smell. Some women claimed it sometimes looks and smells like urine which is most likely to happen when a woman tries too hard to ejaculate.

(5) How to stimulate the g-spot?

The most obvious way is to use own fingers or your partner’s. If the partner is the one doing the stimulation, make sure, his/her fingernails are trimmed and lubricant to be applied on the fingers. Start out by getting her aroused with manual and/or oral clitoral stimulation.

Curl one or two fingers, with the palm facing up and enter 2 inches from her opening. Start massaging the upper and front vaginal wall towards the pubic region with a very light touch. In order to maximize her pleasure, ask her (the person getting the stimulation) to guide you to a specific spot or area that produces intense or enjoyable sensations when being stimulated.

When you sense she is getting closer to orgasm, apply a firmer touch, if she enjoys it. Continue doing this in a constant and steady rhythm until she reaches orgasm. Then switch to a very light caressing touch as she comes down from her orgasm. If she experiences multiple orgasms, her orgasms and ejaculations may become more intense, and the amount of ejaculation may correspondingly increases. If she orgasms with your fingers inside her vagina, her vaginal muscles may squeeze them very tightly, do not pull out, but press in gently. During lovemaking, the best positions to stimulate the g-spot are the doggie and the woman-on-top.

If one of your hands (or his/her) hands is busily stimulating the clitoris, it may limit access to the vagina with the other hand. Therefore in addition to fingers, you can use a dildo. The most effective dildos are those that are curved near the tip called g-spot stimulators and the penis-shaped type. Many women prefer hard plastic or glass dildos. Others are contented with improvised dildos such as cucumbers, brush handles, mirror handles, etc. Some prefer a slim dildo that directs at a specific area within the vagina but others enjoy having their vagina to be filled and stretched to the maximum by a large dildo. If you are seriously considering using a dildo, it is advisable to keep a collection of her favorites and a special one. As a woman’s mood and needs change, so will her dildo needs.

Females…How to Self-ejaculate?

It can take some practice, to learn how to tease and arouse the female prostate and vagina to awaken the female body to the experience of vaginal orgasms that are accompanied by female ejaculation. G-spot and vaginal orgasms aren’t nearly as common as clitoral orgasms, so it may take patience to find and connect with the G-Spot.