Prolong Ejaculation – Prevention And Causes of Premature Ejaculation

Prevention of Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is an embarrassing but common problem for men. Men can last a few minutes or only a few seconds during a sexual encounter, leading to awkward situations, break-ups and even ridicule. There are several ways you can attempt to prolong the experience and have a healthy sexual lifestyle.

Know What Premature Ejaculation Is

Be sure you understand what premature ejaculation is before you can attempt to remedy it. It’s a condition in which a man emits sperm soon after or even before sexual intercourse. It is split into primary (those who have had it since puberty) and secondary (those who have developed it later in life). Although most men aren’t likely to admit it, statistics have shown that as many as one out of three men have had it at one time.

Psychological conditions such as guilt may be a cause of premature ejaculation, as well as anxiety over sexual intercourse. Relationship problems can also take a toll on a person, leading to premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. Physical causes can be abnormal hormones, depression, inflammation or infection of the urethra and thyroid issues.
Premature Ejaculation Prevention

Consider therapy for premature ejaculation that’s caused by psychological problems. A therapist may delve into your past and family to find out if anything may have triggered the premature ejaculation. Discovering the underlying issue may stop the premature ejaculation.

Try thinking of a decidedly non-sexual being or situation if you feel you are about to ejaculate prematurely–cutting the lawn, painting a wall, even a person or thing that is not physically stimulating to you. This may postpone the ejaculation.

Physically, you can use the squeeze technique to prolong the erection. Have your partner grab the head of the penis and squeeze until the urge passes. Wait about 30 seconds and begin again, and repeat if the urge to orgasm comes again.

Or, try medications to relieve premature ejaculation. Antidepressants can help with the depression and creams that can deaden the feeling can extend the period of erection. You should always see a doctor first to discuss your premature ejaculation before treating it yourself.

Causes Of premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation, the early release of semen from the penis, is a common disorder in males. While premature ejaculation happens to most men at some point, it becomes an issue if it is more than an occasional problem. Finding the cause of the problem can help men determine an effective means of treatment.

Significance

Premature ejaculation occurs when semen is expelled from the male’s penis during orgasm before either partner wants it to be expelled. Premature ejaculation can occur due to psychological or physical causes, or a combination of both factors. The 1992 National Health and Social Life Survey found that approximately 30% of males experience premature ejaculation at some time in their lives.
Types

It is important to determine the type of premature ejaculation you have before you begin looking for solutions. If you have had a problem with premature ejaculation ever since you began having sex, the problem is referred to as a primary premature ejaculation. Secondary premature ejaculation occurs when someone who has had good control previously begins to develop a problem. This information will help your doctor determine the best course of treatment.
Features

Premature ejaculation may be caused by psychological factors due to patterns that were established when you first began having sex. If you started having sex when you were young and were worried about being caught in the act, you may have hurried through the process and may have grown accustomed to ejaculating quickly. Anxiety about your sexual performance, or even general anxiety, can cause premature ejaculation. If you feel that having sex is somehow wrong, your guilty feelings may make you want to end the act as soon as possible and these feelings can contribute to premature ejaculation.
Premature ejaculation can also be caused by a variety of medical conditions, such as thyroid disorders, a prostate or urethra infection, abnormal ejaculatory system reflex activity, nervous system damage from surgery or trauma or abnormal hormone or brain chemical levels.
Considerations

Once you have identified a cause, you can begin treatment. If premature ejaculation is occurring for psychological reasons, your doctor may suggest you try the squeeze technique. When you feel that you are about to ejaculate, ask your partner to gently squeeze the end of the penis just below the head for a few moments until the urge goes away. Wait at least 30 seconds before continuing foreplay. When you reach the point of ejaculation, ask your partner to perform the squeeze technique again. Keep doing this until you feel that you can enter your partner without immediately ejaculating.
Other methods of avoiding premature ejaculation include masturbating a few hours before you expect to have sex and concentrating on other methods of sexual pleasure for a certain period of time to remove any pressure you feel about having sex.
Anti-depressants and anesthetic cream applied directly to the penis can help some men prolong ejaculation. Psychotherapy, used either alone or in conjunction with other therapies, can help men overcome premature ejaculation.
If your problem has a medical cause, appropriate treatment, such as treating an infection or adjusting thyroid levels, will usually resolve the problem.

Some anti-depressants can delay orgasm. Always consult certified doctor and check your allergic and health report, If you start taking an anti-depressant to treat premature ejaculation and experience delayed orgasm.

You can prefer safe oral sex in case you have problems in prolonging insertion sex due to premature ejaculation, or else you can improve your sexual performance by prolonging ejaculation with start and stop technique detailed here.

Remedy of Premature Ejaculation with Start and Stop Technique

First, the husband and wife should begin lovemaking. As soon as the husband’s penis becomes erect, they need to stop. Then he lays down on his back and the wife proceeds to masturbate him. During this time, the husband must focus on the sexual sensations that he feels. As soon as he begins to feel like he is going to orgasm, he must tell his wife to stop. This procedure should be repeated 5 times in a row. After the fifth time, he should offer to pleasure his wife (oral/manual stimulation). This is important because she has just spent a considerable amount of time pleasuring her man and may want some sexual attention also. Before moving on to the next exercise, make sure the two of you feel comfortable with this exercise. Successful completion means, that for three nights in a row, you will be able to tell your wife to stop prior to orgasm, enabling your need to orgasm to abate. You will have achieved the beginning stage of control.

The second stage is to engage in the same foreplay, your partner masturbating you, but this time with the help of some lubrication. I recommend Astroglide. In my opinion, this is the best stuff on the market. But if other subscribers have different thoughts please feel free to let me know, and I will post your responses. Repeat the above procedure; the sensations may be stronger because she is not only touching you with her hands, but there is lubrication. If per chance, you ejaculate before you are mentally prepared, your partner will admonish you for not taking better care to feel your sexual sensations. She will redirect your attention to focus more selfishly on your own bodily feelings.

The third stage consists of the man and woman engaging in coitus (sex). The woman should be in the top position and the man on bottom. He then guides her thrusting movements with his hands. When he comes close to having an orgasm, he stops her. Together they wait until his intense sensations abate. After his sensations have substantially decreased, he again guides her thrusting movements. This process should be repeated five times for four days in a row.

For most couples to accomplish the above tasks will take 2-6 weeks. Congratulate yourselves for your hard work. To truly achieve delayed ejaculations may take several additional months of practice, but you will be well on your way to having learned successful control. With this new found control you will be in a much more superior position to pleasure both yourself and your wife.

For those of you who do not quite feel comfortable with the first form of the Stop & Start Technique there is a second version, which still depends upon the same set of assumptions. People who suffer from premature ejaculation do not recognize the erotic sensations that they feel as they approach the point of no return, which is the point just prior to orgasm. To learn control, you must slow down the process. The overall, theme to the second approach is identifying the sensations based on a numbers approach. The numbers may vary a bit depending on what you consider to be sexually exciting. I have merely suggested a few which others have thought helpful. What the male will need to do is to take the next week or more, both by himself, and with his partner to name exactly what sensations each different numbers represent. Zero being the least sensations, and one hundred being the most.

Sensation Levels

  • Zero = a flaccid penis with no sexual thoughts or energy
  • Five = an erect penis with minimal sexual thoughts and/or energy
  • Ten = ears being nibbled
  • Fifteen = reading sexy stories together
  • Twenty = breast stimulation
  • Forty = slow penal stimulation
  • Fifty = slow oral stimulation of your penis
  • Eighty = medium paced penal-vaginal intercourse
  • Ninety-nine = point of no return
  • One Hundred = orgasm

Now that you have a number system this will be your primary way of communicating with your partner (and yourself) what sensation you are feeling at any given point in time. If she is stimulating you to orgasm from manual stimulation you should be able to tell her at every different junction what number you are feeling. It may only be a matter of five seconds before you orgasm, but within those five seconds you should be able to say 2,5, 38, 69, 88, 99, 100. If the numbers are rising very rapidly you are exactly where you want to be. If you are able to take longer approaching each number, then you are slightly ahead of the game. Do not think for a moment that you are in any position to skip any of the below steps. It just means that you might have an easier time achieving each step. Developing control over your premature ejaculation will take time. It does not happen overnight.

Now, like in the first way of treating a premature ejaculation, after the man has become sexually aroused and has an orgasm, he should lie down on his back and the woman should begin to masturbate him with her hands. This time do not allow him to achieve higher than a 20 from the scale of 1-100 which measures his level of excitement. After he has achieved the 20, she must stop and wait until his penis returns to its flaccid state.

After he is flaccid this process begins again. This cycle repeats for 5 days. On the fifth day, the wife should stimulate him until he reaches a 25. When he reaches level 25, she must stop and wait for him to return to his flaccid state. This cycle of reaching a 25 and then stopping repeats until he is able to master this process for three days in a row. After the husband is able to reach a level 50, the woman must stop what she is doing until his feelings of excitement return to level 25 (the degree of sensations on a scale of 1-100). This process repeats all the way up until he can tell his wife that he is not only at level 98, and she is able to successfully stop while his sensations abate to the mid-twenties, but he is able to tell the difference between level 97 and 98. Expect that this exercise will take 1-3 months to achieve.

Having achieved success, the two of you are now ready to begin the next phase. This assignment is progressively harder, but operates with the same principals. Instead of simply using manual stimulation, the wife should combine lubrication and manual stimulation. After the two of you are able to complete this process, try using fellatio (which is a blow-job/giving head). However, in these two phases, you can spend one day on achieving each number at five point increments. If you find yourself having difficulty maintaining control, then feel free to take slightly longer at each stage and try moving by one-point increments. The purpose of using a one hundred point scale is not to bore/tire you to death, or make this process take any longer than necessary. Rather the purpose is to help the two of you to slow down enough so that you the man can really feel and recognize each stage and be extremely aware of all the different sexual sensations that he is experiencing. This is critical to his developing control of his ejaculations.

Now the two of you are ready for penal-vaginal intercourse. By now I am sure the two of you can expect that the one hundred-point scale will be used to help the two of you out again. As in the first stop & start technique, the woman is in the top position and the man is on the bottom. He again helps to control her hip movements. When he reaches the sensation of a 20, he must tell her to stop and wait until his penis returns to a flaccid state. After he has become flaccid, the two of you will begin again to pleasure each other (while the man’s penis is inside the woman). This may mean mouth-to-mouth stimulation (i.e. kissing), ear nibbling, breast-fondling/caressing, dirty talk . . . . Once the man’s penis is erect begin again with the thrusting of the hips. After reaching a level of 20 stop. Each day, increase the degree of sensation by five points. If any point seems to cause you difficulty, break the steps down into the actual five incremental steps (31,32,33,34,45). There is no need to rush each other. The two of you are not going anywhere. Besides, good sex requires lots and lots of practice. Good sex is not something that is learned overnight. Ok, once the man has reached a level 40, his goal is to let his sexual sensations abate until his level of sexual excitement is at a 20. This continues until the man has achieved a level of 98.

By the time the man has reached a level of 98 sexual excitement and been able to tell his partner to stop during manual, oral and penal-vaginal intercourse the problem of premature ejaculation has become a problem of the past. There is almost no need to orgasm any longer – unless you want to. After the success, female partner would be more careful about her male partner as he might become gem of a person on bed and need to protected from other naughty females.

Another perspective to avoid premature ejaculation with start stop technique in the video below

5 Responses to Prolong Ejaculation – Prevention And Causes of Premature Ejaculation

  1. Jason says:

    I am 16 years old and i recently found out that i have problem of premature ejaculation. I masturbate once every day, may b once after 2 days. And it became this frequent only this year. Last year, i didnt masturbate this much. If i stop masturbation, will it stop the problem of premature ejaculation?
    Proper answers plz!

  2. soccermaster1 says:

    Do anyone know how to get rid of premature ejaculation.
    Or at least prolong it longer.

  3. skillz says:

    Why is that when ever i do orgasm the seimens comes out fast & i cannot do orgasm for more than 5 minutes, i start ejaculating soon.
    What can i do to get rid of this problem?
    I want to have the orgasm for more than 30 minutes, cus i hire the girl for 30 minutes… lol

  4. Joe M says:

    Why is that when ever i do orgasm the seimens comes out fast & i cannot do orgasm for more than 5 minutes, i start ejaculating soon.
    What can i do to get rid of this problem?
    I want to have the orgasm for more than 30 minutes, cus i hire the girl for 30 minutes… lol

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