Oral Sex: How Safe Is Licking Vagina, Penis or Anus ?

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Oral sex is defined as the act of sexual intimacy from mouth-to-penis (fellatio), mouth-to-vagina (cunnilingus), or mouth–to–anus. Or in slang terms: a blowjob, going down, giving head, honeypot lick or rimming. You can’t get pregnant from oral sex, but you can get an STI.

Deciding whether or not to have oral sex is a personal choice. Some people like it; others do not. You should consider your values, where you are in your relationship, how you feel about giving/receiving oral sex, how your partner feels about giving/receiving oral sex, and how you both feel about the risk of getting an STI. Discussing this decision with a doctor, older sibling, or other trusted adult may help you in this decision.

What is Oral Sex and Sexually Transmitted Disease ?

Oral Sex & STIs

STIs are caused by viruses or bacteria that like warm, soft, moist places such as your mouth and genital area (penis, vulva, vagina, anus, area between penis and anus, and area between vulva and anus).

STIs can spread from the genital area to the mouth and from the mouth to the genital area. They are generally passed between people via body fluids or direct contact with skin or sores.

Though there’s admittedly less risk of STIs in oral sex than in vaginal or anal sex, the risk still exists. You can get a bacterial infection of chlamydia, syphilis, or gonorrhea in your mouth and/or throat and – in some rarer occasions – can develop genital warts in the mouth. Herpes is commonly passed between genitals and the mouth, and HIV can be passed through cuts in the mouth or small abrasions.

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The only 100 percent effective way to avoid an STI is not to have oral, vaginal, or anal sex at all. If you are planning to have oral sex, know how to make it safer by avoiding the exchange of bodily fluids and other risky contact.

Before you have oral sex, talk to your partner about sexual history, history of STIs, and protection.

Oral sex involves sucking or licking the vagina, penis or anus. Some men and women (gay and straight) choose to do this as part of their sex life, and others don’t.

According to the second National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles, more than 75% of men and women had had oral sex in the last year.

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There’s a risk of getting or passing on STIs if you’re giving or receiving oral sex.

If you or your partner has an infection, the risk of passing it on increases if either of you has sores or cuts around the mouth, genitals or anus. This is because viruses and bacteria, which may be present in semen, vaginal fluid or blood, can travel more easily into a partner’s body through breaks in the skin.
It’s believed that the risk of infection is lower when you receive oral sex than when you give someone oral sex. This is because when someone gives you oral sex, you don’t come into contact with your partner’s genital fluid (semen or vaginal fluid). However, there’s still a risk of infection.

STIs that can be passed on through oral sex include:
chlamydia
herpes (type 1 and type 2, which can cause cold sores around the mouth and on the genitals or anus)
genital warts
gonorrhoea
hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C
HIV
syphilis

If you have a cold sore and you give your partner oral sex, you can infect them with the herpes virus and they may get genital sores. Similarly, herpes can pass from genitals to the mouth.

oral sex treatment and safe methods

It’s thought that the risk of passing on or getting HIV during oral sex is low. The risk is higher if there are any cuts or sores in the mouth, genitals or anus.

You can make oral sex safer by using a condom, because it acts as a barrier between the mouth and the genitals. A dam (a square of very thin soft plastic) across the anus or female genitals can protect against infection.

Condoms are available in different flavours, but you can use any kind of condom during oral sex. Make sure that it has the European CE standard mark, which means that the condom meets high safety standards.

Communication in Oral Sex is essential

Do not have oral sex if either you or your partner is on treatment for a STI or is having an outbreak of symptoms (as with herpes).

If you choose to have oral sex, using a barrier method to prevent direct contact between one partner’s mouth and the other partner’s genitals or anus is the best way to reduce your chance of getting or giving an STI. These methods are discussed in more detail below.

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Safe Methods for Protection in Oral Sex

Oral Sex on the Vulva (outside vagina) & Anus

If you are giving oral sex from mouth-to-vulva (outside of vagina) or from mouth-to-anus, you can protect yourself with methods such as the following:

Plastic Wrap (such as Saran or Cling Wrap)

Pros:

Inexpensive and easy to find in any grocery or drug store
Covers a larger area
Can be used with oil- or water-based lubricants
Allows heat to be felt through the wrap

Cons:

Can rip – use caution with fingernails

Directions:

Cover the vulva area with the plastic wrap. You can either cut a piece of the wrap and hold it in place or wrap the pelvic area.
To increase sensitivity, you can place lubricant on the side facing the vulva.
Once you are done, throw the plastic wrap away.
If you are rimming, follow the directions above but place the wrap over the anal area.

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Dental Dams, Licks, & Other Latex Square Barriers

Pros:

Provides a stronger latex barrier.
Some, such as “Glide Dams,” come in flavors such as grape and vanilla.

Cons:

May not be easy to find, although some teen-friendly clinics (such as Planned Parenthood) and dental supply stores carry them.
Some feel there is less sensation of warmth and feeling.
Covers a small area and fluids may seep past the dam (use caution).
Only protects what it covers.
Some require that you hold the latex in place for protection.
May not be used with oil-based lubricants because they will break down the latex.

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Directions:

Hold the latex square over the vulva area. Some will stay in place (like Glide Dams), while others must be held in place for protection. You can also try using a garter belt to hold it and free up your hands.
To increase sensitivity, you can place lubricant on the side facing the vulva. Be sure to only use water-based lubricant (not Vaseline or oils).
Dental dams can only be used once, so after you are done, throw away the dam.
If you are rimming, follow the directions above but place the dam over the anal area.

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Cutting a Condom into a Rectangle

Pros:

Easy to get. Look for a non-lubricated condom, flavored lubricated condom, or flavored non-lubricated condom.

Cons:

Provides a small area of protection and requires care to ensure that fluids don’t seep past the condom into the mouth or the anus/vulva area.
You must use both hands to hold the cut condom in place.
Can only use water-based lubricant (not Vaseline or oils).
Only protects what it covers

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Directions:

Unroll the condom and cut off the very tip and the very end of the condom.
Cut lengthwise to make a rectangle.
Hold the latex square over the vulva area. To increase sensitivity, you can place lubricant on the side facing the vulva. Be sure to only use water-based lubricant (not Vaseline or oils).
Once you are done, throw away the condom.
If you are rimming, follow the directions above but place the condom over the anal area.

Oral Sex on a Penis

If you are giving oral sex from mouth-to-penis (fellatio), you can protect yourself with barrier methods such as the following:

Non-Lubricated Condom

Pros:

Easy to find in drugstores.

Cons:

Some say it’s dry or don’t like the taste.
Only protects what it covers

Directions:

If available, place some water-based lubricant (not Vaseline or oils) in the tip of the condom.
Put the condom on the penis (see step-by-step instructions).
After you are done, throw away the condom.

Flavored Lubricated Condoms

Pros:

Sometimes can be found in drug stores.
Some teen-friendly clinics carry different varieties.

Cons:

Some say that the lubrication feels/tastes more like Chapstick.
Only protects what it covers.

Directions:

If available, place some water-based lubricant (not Vaseline or oils) in the tip of the condom.
Put the condom on the penis (see step-by-step instructions).
After you are done, throw away the condom.

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Kiss of Mint Condoms

Pros:

Many find mint a more favorable flavor.
Condom is not lubricated.

Cons:

Hard to find. Generally, only adult stores open to people over 18 carry this product. You may want to try teen-friendly clinics as well.
Only protects what it covers.

Directions:

If available, place some water-based lubricant (not Vaseline or oils) in the tip of the condom.
Put the condom on the penis (see step-by-step instructions).
After you are done, throw away the condom.

Fingering/Massaging and Licking Wet Fingers

This is when someone inserts one or more fingers into their partner’s vagina or anus. It’s not common for fingering to spread STIs, but there are still risks. After this the fingerer licks the wet finger to arouse the partner with dirty act.

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Girls wrap palm around penis and stroke it in up/down position and lick when the boy ejaculates.

If there are any cuts or sores on the fingers, no matter how small, the risk of passing on or getting HIV or other blood-borne infections such as hepatitis B or C increases.
Some people gradually insert the whole hand into a partner’s vagina or anus (called fisting). Not everyone chooses to do this. Again, the risk of infection is higher if either person has any cuts or broken skin that come into contact with their partner. You can lower the risk by wearing surgical gloves.

Sex toys

This covers a wide range of items, including vibrators and sex dolls. Any object used in sex can be called a sex toy whether it’s designed for this use or not. Some have habit of licking the toy after masturbation which can cause self-infection.

It’s important to keep sex toys clean. If you’re sharing sex toys, make sure you wash them between users and put a new condom on them.

Sharing sex toys has risks, including getting and passing on infections such as chlamydia, syphilis and herpes. If there are any cuts or sores around the vagina, anus or penis and there’s blood, there’s an increased risk of passing on hepatitis B, hepatitis C and HIV.

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Urine and faeces

Some people choose to urinate on a partner’s face or mouth as part of their sex life, and others don’t. Such type of dirty acts are performed to show shallow affection towards partner. There’s a relatively low risk of passing on an infection if the person who’s being urinated on has no broken skin.

Faeces (poo) carry more of a risk. They contain organisms that can cause illness or infection. Although faeces doesn’t usually contain HIV, they can contain the hepatitis A virus. There’s a chance of infection when faeces comes into contact with broken skin, the mouth or the eyes.

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Cutting

Cutting the skin (called scarification) as part of sex carries risks. Infections such as HIV, hepatitis B and hepatitis C can pass from person to person through broken skin. No sexual contact is needed. Simply getting blood on a partner may transmit these infections.

To lower the chances of infection, cutting and piercing equipment should be sterilised and not shared.

16 Responses to Oral Sex: How Safe Is Licking Vagina, Penis or Anus ?

  1. Jesica says:

    Oral sex is really enjoyed on both of us but is it safe r nt could you tell me
    And give me the health tips for doing oral sex

    • Michelle says:

      Yes Jesica, this is how your lover should do to you.

      Try the tips given below:

      Step 1. The Comfort Zone

      The first thing to know about going down on your lady is that if she’s not relaxed, she’s not going to enjoy it. “One of the sexiest things a guy has ever said to me was ‘get comfortable,’” says Los Angeles-based sex expert and radio host Lora Somoza. “The woman can get really self-conscious over how long it’s going to take them to orgasm, and if she feels like she’s with some guy that isn’t in a rush, that’s incredibly sexy.”

      Step 2. Perfect Position

      Your partner probably knows the position that’s most comfortable for her to be in, but if she’s open to suggestions, put a pillow under her butt to lift her pelvis up, which will give you great leverage—and make her feel fantastic. “Then, when she’s lying on her back, keep her knees wide,” says Somoza. “The wider she is, the more of an opening you have to work with. That helps with the sensation.” Somoza also stresses that the guy be comfortable too. “The guy may want to kneel on the bed with a pillow under his knees too, so he can just go to town.”

      Step 3. Tease With Your Tongue

      “You must start off in a teasing manner in the beginning. A slight lick of the tongue going up and down is good, licking the thighs at first and then slowly starting to move down, gaining intensity and speed,” she says.

      Step 4. Listen Up

      One of the most important things you can do at this point read her body—and by that, we mean monitor her breathing, and pay attention to how she’s moving her hips. Somoza says that if you’re doing something she likes, you’ll notice that she’s getting more turned on. “You really need to learn how to listen to her body. If you’re not listening to how she’s responding, you might as well just be jerking off in the corner.”

      Step 5. Embrace the Vibration

      Don’t be afraid of breaking out the vibrator! It can be an invaluable tool to the art of oral. The average woman takes 20 minutes to climax from oral sex, so you’re going to be there for a while. There’s no shame in implementing the help of a tried-and-true toy, suggests Somoza. “Use something small and easily handled so you can still feel like you’re in control,” she says. “Put the vibrator on the clitoral hood, then spend some time with your tongue in the labia area.”

      Step 6. The Crescendo

      “The build up should be like a crescendo. You need to start increasing pressure and increasing speed. Some women like a side-to-side tongue motion in the clitoral hood, while other women like an up-and-down rhythm,” says Somoza. “Some will be more into the clitoral hood and others will be more into the labia. Judge your movement based on her response.” But whatever you do, do not jab at her like a machine gun, mimic eating an ice cream cone or pretend you’re writing the alphabet with your tongue. (We hope you’d know better than that anyway).

      Step 7. The Grand Finale

      When you feel like she’s getting close to her climax, continue what you’re doing! But—and here’s the disclaimer—she may not always come. It’s not a reflection of your ability. “Don’t be so ‘goal-oriented’ and caught up in your own ego,” Somoza advises. “Your only goal should be to make her feel good. One of the sexiest things about a man is when he acts like being between a woman’s legs is his favorite place in the whole wide world. A lot of what makes great oral sex is the attitude you show your partner.”

    • Michelle says:

      The tips to give head to your man.

      1.) Get him feeling frisky by rubbing his manhood. Make sure to use an open hand and fingers facing downward.

      2.) Be gentle!! Pretend you’re “rubbing Aladdin’s lamp.”

      3.) Unbutton his pants and unleash his baloney pony fairly soon. Nobody wants chafing or premature ejaculation in a pair of jeans.

      4.) Peekaboo penis through the fly is for amateurs, he says. Remove his penis fully from his pants and use lube or spit to get him wet.

      5.) Form an L-shape with your thumb and forefinger and place your hand at the base of his penis.

      6.) Slowly move hand up to the tip, swivel your hand so the full palm goes to the top and then move down the base and up again (diagram included).

      7.) When he gets close to climaxing, move your hands into the “ring” position. The ring is accomplished by forming the traditional O with your hand to stimulate intercourse.

    • Dreet Kishore says:

      It’s safe provided you are careful . My husband always loves licking it even in public.
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  2. Migz says:

    Is it really safe though? Since it is my first with my gf and getting a little nervous and excited at the same time lol haha

  3. Davies Williams says:

    My girlfriend is going to suck my penis? It’s going to be the first time my third girlfriend is going to see my penis and right now I’m just questioning myself if she will judge the size of my penis? My penis size by the way is 4 inches flaccid though erect it is 5.5 inches. My last gf used to tease a lot about my penis. Can i ask her to close eyes and suck my penis ? please help

  4. Nicole says:

    Well… I love oral sex more than penetration. it’s simple and very easy. All you do is put your mouth on the penis and suck. Go up and down slow or fast. You will get the hang of it. I’m only 15 but I know how to do it. I’ve been doing it for a while and I even did it yesterday. Why make it more completed talking about diseases. Have fun of life no point in thinking of future we all die one day. oral sex is great thing. I love it if given chance would love to do it every hour lolzzz ha ha ha 🙂 😀 just kidding.

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    • Aslam says:

      U r doing fine….continue oral s……

  5. Mustafa says:

    It will feel good because there’s a lot of nerve endings in the rectum but it’s not a nice act, you can get illnesses from licking a butthole. Better do not do acts which is not permitted by almighty allah and mohammed (phuh). It is sin you will die to hell.

  6. Jack says:

    @Rachel very good question. Yes it feels good as a girl. Just make sure she takes a good shower before you do it. Maybe even clean her bum for her while you’re in the shower together. Do it as though its yours, and like you love it and want it. She’ll love you for it and she’ll never forget you, because all we girls want it so be wanted. The worst thing you can do it act disgusted or like you dont want to do it. That ruins everything permanently. Also check for poops if you want to insert your tongue deeper. You can share your email id and I would love to guide you based on my personal experience with my ex gf 🙂

  7. Rachel says:

    Can someone share their experience on anus lick. I want to do it with my lesbo friend.

  8. Abdul Mohammed Ansur says:

    After Eating I mean khana khane ke foran bad hi Sex na kare. Yeh baat bhi is article mey batani jaruri thi. Fir chahe woh jo bhi ho oral, anal ya fir choot wala. Agar aap aisa karte hai to aap ka ejaculation bhi jaldi honga or penis ka erection bhi kam rahe ga, kiyon ki penis ko erect hone ke liye blood ki zaroorat padhti hai or jab aap khana khate hai to bhari matra me aap ke ma’de me blood circulate karta hai usko pachane ke liye, hamesha khan eke 3 ghante ke baad hi sambhog sex kiya jay to bahetar hota hai.

  9. Sujata says:

    Mujhe accha laga jo article mey diya hua hai. Mai chahti hu koi mere nitamb ko chaate. Kyuki inko pasand nahi hai mere piche ko chaatna. jab ki mujhe ganda sex karne ka bahut dil hota hai.

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  10. Dorothy says:

    Yes. article gives very good unbiased information. Regarding new fetish of piss drinking which is popular among couples it is said that urine won’t hurt you. All urine is, is water with some other things in it. The more clear the urine the safer it is. Dark orange would make you sick to drink in large doses. Yes, it is safe, to a point. The bladder is a filtration system, meant to excrete bacteria and liquids from your body. Anything that the body does not use (minerals, vitamins, etc.), comes out as feces(poop) or urine. It is safe to consume urine, however, the more the urine is filtered through the system, eventually will just be bacteria, which is not good. What I’m trying to say is do not drink re-“filtered” urine. We do sometimes enjoy exchanging urine when we dont drink alcohol but clean water. Specifically when we do 69. Me and husband pleases us dirty tricks.

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