Build Confidence to Deal with Women

Build Confidence to Deal with Women

We all know self-confidence is critical to both personal and business success. However, despite a track record of success in a certain situation we can still feel like we wish we had more confidence overall and even in that situation. Confidence is a concept that is considered to be ‘the’ characteristic that women are attracted to. In fact, if you go up to any random women and ask her what she looks for in a guy, you can almost be positive that CONFIDENCE will be in her answer.

Persons who are shy while interacting with women loose command in making their points clear while presiding over the meetings. Low confidence does not help in developing better professional or personal relationship with women.

So what is confidence?

Confidence is the belief that success is achievable and within arm length. Everyone has confidence to some degree in their lives. Most people are confident driving a car or reading a book. The problem is, a lot of the times confidence is context based and never fully transmuted to other parts of your life including attracting women. The good news is, confidence is NOT a personality trait. It’s an attitude that can be learned.

Far from being driven by an attitude, self-confidence is built by actions and experience and the starting point is with ourselves. If you wish to build a high level of self-confidence it is important to focus less on self-confidence itself, and more on building self-discipline. Your success is mastering yourself will build not only your abilities but also your sense of self respect. When you respect yourself you will naturally have more confidence in any given situation and be able to brush off setbacks and work through challenges.

How to build confidence stepwise

Here are six steps to build confidence:

1. Identify core values

The first step in becoming confident is realizing your core values. Doing so will manifest a congruent identity that is aligned with how you live your life. And a man who knows exactly what he wants from himself and others is a confident man. The quickest way to recognize what you value in life to ask yourself some specific questions. The trick is not think about an answer. Just take into account the first few thoughts that pop into your head. Your intuition often knows best.

How to build confidence - Identify core values

Here are 3 questions you can ask yourself that will hopefully shine some light on your core values.
“What is are the things in life that make me happy?”
“What are the things in life that I am best at?”
“If I was forced to live by one ethic alone, what would it be?”

Your answers to these questions will generally provide a road map to a confident, decisive belief system.

2. Set goals

Another good way to become confident is to set small goals that can be achieved during the day. Most people equate goals to feats that are near unachievable. It’s good to set some long term goals but it’s also good to set goals that you can achieve right now.

The crazy thing is you can turn basically any remedial task and turn it into a goal. For example, on one occasion I set a goal to run 3 miles. I achieved my goal and took a split moment to celebrate. The same day I set a goal to say hello to three people I had never met. I achieved my goal and basked in glory briefly. Later in the day I set a goal to go grocery shopping. I achieved my goal and by this time, I was confident I could pretty much do anything. What I realized is that after you’ve completed consecutive goals, your mind will start to associate what you do with success. It begins to transmute into other facets of your life. So if you want a real easy way to gain to gain confidence, set mini goals and achieve them throughout the day.

3. Externalize Success and Accomplishments

Another way to become confident is to write down everything you know you are good at. It doesn’t have to be anything unique or profound. It can be as simple as “I am a good driver!” If you take into account much of the daily things you do and have done, your mind will begin to realize how competent you actually are. If you want to take this one step farther, you can write down all of your accomplishments.

4. Affirmations

Another way to create confidence is to practice saying affirmations to yourself. Because the unconscious mind cannot distinguish between the real world and the mental realm, many of the affirmations will slip past your consciousness into a place where they become real beliefs even if you have never had any success in that particular area. Note: In creating affirmations, it is extremely important to always keep them positive. Your unconscious mind does not hear positives or negatives. It simply hears commands. So if you were to say to yourself “I’m not a loser!” your subconscious mind will still hear “I’m” and “loser.” Here is a set of affirmations I’ve used in the past that helped me become more confident.

I am blessed

I am attractive

I can attract beautiful women

I am confident

I am in control of my life

I know what I want

I know how to get what I want

I am successful

I am loved by others

I love myself

I am capable of anything

I am interesting

I am intelligent

Say these over and over again to yourself.

Build Confidence to Deal with Women - enhance your positive traits

And these are just a few. Create your own that cater to specific things in your life that you don’t feel confident about. Also, it is important to keep doing them as long you need to. Confidence doesn’t happen over night. If you want to expedite the process, you can print a few affirmations out in large lettering and tape them to your ceiling or mirrors or any other place where you will see them every day. They don’t even have to be long affirmations. You could even do something like “YES, YOU CAN!” There are also a variety of NLP hypnosis audio tracks that you can listen to before you go to bed that will guide you to a more confident reality.

5. Gain Competence

Competence and success will also fuel your confidence. In terms of meeting women, competence will come with studying Attractology and using the theories, techniques and routines we provide on the site. In fact, the only purpose of routines is to get success under your belt so you can become more confident with women. In reality, if you want the deeply embedded belief that you can attract women, you will need to be absolutely positive that you have that ability. To be absolutely positive, you will need some success under your belt. Check out our outer game section to see some ways to get some initial success that will further boost your confidence.

Build Confidence to Deal with Women - Gain Competence

6. Communities

Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people is very important in gaining and sustaining confidence. If you surround yourself with people who constantly belittle you and try to take value from you, it can be very difficult to sustain confidence. Eagles soar with other eagles for a reason and you too need to surround yourself with people who will support your personal growth and accept you for who you are. In terms of creating a stronger social net, find people with common interests and become part of a group/s. Some examples of social groups are work friends, classmates, teammates, club members, etc. There are even groups for guys who want to learn how to meet women called lairs. They are great as well for building confidence.

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